Thursday, May 21, 2015

My life is a living Hell from the first month of our marriage

Good afternoon Aunty Amara, 
Please I need your advice,  I met this guy online June 2013 and by December we got married that same 2013, and from the first month of our marriage my life became a living hell, my husband started misbehaving, womanize, beats, nags, complains, insults me and my family, he doesn't want me to keep friends, even in the presence of his families, friends and public he embarrasses me. 
Our staying together was for the first five months of our marriage and after that he took me back to his family house and he stayed were he works, he came home every last Wednesday of the month, then on Sunday afternoon he was gone, he hardly touched me, we don't gist, he doesn't ask me how am faring, I hardly see him at home even when he was around.
When I go through his phone I will see other women and when I confronted him, he will beat me and call me names, and to make matters worse he doesn't save or plain ahead, I have gone through a lot of things to the extent that his family told me to go before I die, 
But anytime I bring up the topic of traveling to see my family, he will object to it, since we got married, I have never traveled neither do any of my family member know were am married to, his family, and friends look down on me.
Even last week when I visited him he beats me up and almost killed me, his friends broke the door and stopped him. I am tired and confused I don't know what to do 
Please ma advice me. Thank you and GOD bless you. Please hide my identity and notify me when you post.
Thank you ma


24 comments:

  1. Pack your things and leave. You are not confused. Listen to your heart, it has the answer. Good luck.
    Oh and dont tell him or anybody. Just go.

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    1. No, let her wait till he kills her and bring in someone he feels is befitting to him, you met him online and married immediately, not even minding to know the person, your people don't even know where you are married off too??? Am sure the never supported and you were to stubborn. Now wait till he kills you.

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    2. Just pack ur tins and leave that home ooo don't even tell his pple.....just go in peace then in pieces.

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  2. U are waiting 4 him to allow travel b4 u will run 4 ur dear life? Chai :'(

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  3. My dear, dats not marriage it's simply man's inhumanity to man.... RUN for ur life
    #wakaringaway#

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  4. Dear poster,
    I will simply advice you leave the house because his own family had told you too. Again I feel you didn't really kw who you were getting married too... It might work out for some people to get married in the shortest time they met others it might not.
    The truth is that we cannot be trusted (men & women) change their attitude anytime they feel like but we should be more concern in changing from negative to positive attitude. Before you die with on what u never wished or planned for stand up & leave.
    You have a better life out there before he. kills you.
    God will see you through.

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  5. If kids are not involved I advice that you go back to your father's house.

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  6. Run for your dear life. Go back to. Your parents or relation.

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  7. Like seriously you're still waiting to be advised, seems your life means nothing to you my dear sister. You don't need to tell anyone u're leaving. Just runnnnnnn

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  8. Wat kind of wedding was dat, official or non official , any which one u don't hv to stay in abusive marriage, save urself d truama, it's not a must dat u hv to be married to be happy, u hv ur life to live, so better advice urself and take a step witout looking back!

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  9. D man only married u jst to cover up for d shady deals n acts dat he is involved in

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  10. Met online and got married same year without proper investigation of who he is, you got yourself into that mess so simply get yourself out of it.

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  11. What is really holding you back from leaving when he isn't around? All those days he disappears, just stand up and go. Do you think he has the nerve to come and harass you in your fathers house? There's something off with the characters in this story. If this is true, I suggest you gather yourself thoroughly(mind and body), call your remaining friends/ relatives and let them be your bearings because I assure you that he will return. At this time, allow your family and friends to be your voice. Don't utter a word to him when he comes over. Don't ever speak to him again, just go because at the state you claim to be in, there is the likelihood that you'll be weak and run back in fear of this threats. Don't talk to him or look at him or even acknowledge his existence, in his presence. I'm not sure what kind of marriage it was, where he assaults you in his family house and they do nothing about it but tell you to go, says alot about his upbringing. Call your people, let them come and collect you in his family's house. If bride price was ever paid, as they are coming, that's the first thing they drop off. No talking, no negotiations or "lets discuss this amicably". None of this. Just keep in mind that he might one day return to beg and you better be mentally and physically ready to face him. So until then, let him speak to only your family members.
    I wish you good luck.

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  12. my dear, what went wrong? did he just change over night? you better alert your people before he kills you. one doesnt die twice

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  13. Leave before u get ur sef killed

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  14. u dnt need advice from anyone.. u know exactly d right thing to do, pack ur things and go and wen doing dat dnt tell anyone an dnt go with any of his property.. go d same way u came only ur own materials, just ur bags.

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  15. At this stage in ur life, u don't need his consent to go visit ur people. I suggest u leave ASAP to ur parents and go cool off for some time biko!!!!

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  16. Look for money and go back to ur parents. Don't let him kill u

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  17. Na wa oo!!! The lord will see you thru the wilderness.... my sister u try ohhhhh!!?

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  18. the issue here is life and death situation, you shouldn't hid your identity, you suppose to print his name, so he can be shamed, he hits you because he think he own you and that he can. Go back to your family. You fight when you are alive, if you are gone, you are gone.
    But sorry to ask, how come none of your family know where you are married to?
    He abuses you cos he know you can't fight him back, I suggest that you pack your belongings and leave as a living dog is stronger than a dead lion. Goodluck.

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