Saturday, May 16, 2015

She Loves him, But he is Unemployed.

Please ma help me post this and notify me when posted.

Am a graduate though not yet working.I met this guy when i was in my third year in the university and he was in HND finals.
We started dating since then that was 2011.He loves me and I know,but the problem I had with him was that since he finished his national service in 2013,he has not been working.

He is an engineer, I know is not easy to get work in Nigeria but at times you have to help yourself. 
He is based in Enugu. I have advised him many times to leave Enugu and go to another state in search of a greener pasture but all fell on deaf ears.This guy was posted to Akwa-ibom for his national youth service but he redeployed and went back to Enugu,He was born in Enugu,grew up in Enugu,schooled in Enugu. 

I don't know his reason why he don't want to go to another state since the job opportunities there in Enugu were few before election he told me he would be travelling to Lagos to stay with a cousin of his and look for work but yesterday I asked him about his plan of travelling he said he don't know what am saying. 

Aunty am tired of the relationship,This guy don't spend a dime on me though am not complaining cos i see it that he is not working.The love I have for him made me turn down many suitors that are coming for me but now i wont to quit the relationship. Please i need your advice on this.hide my identity.thanks.
Dear sender,
I understand your concerns and worries about his indecision.
However you can do little to help him if he feels your suggestions wont be of best benefit to him.
And it can be frustrating also for him if he does not have accommodation where he can stay and search for a greener pastures.
Make out time to discuss with him and do well to know what his plans and visions are to enable you decide whether to continue or not.
Please commit your relationship to God in prayers and allow him to guide you through the rough patches of your relationship.

4 comments:

  1. DEAR POSTER I UNDERSTAND UR PAINS AND FRAUSTRATIONS BUT I THINK YOU ARE BEEN TOO HARD ON YOUR MAN.INSTEAD OF ASKING HIM TO DO WHAT YOU WANT,Y DONT U ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS AND STICK TO THAT DECISION? HE MAY BE CONSIDERING ALL THE HARD WORK THAT WILL GO INTO SETTLING DOWN IN A CITY TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM WHAT HE IS USED TO HENCE REFUSAL TO MOVE TO A NEW CITY.HAVE YOU PRAYED FOR HIM VERY WELL AT ALL?HAVE U ASKED GOD FOR HIS OPINION?DO THAT WITH FAITH,WORK HARD ON YOUR SELF TO BE A BETTER PERSON TO HIM AND TO THE SOCIETY AT LARGE..MEANWHILE BE MORE UNDERSTANDING , DONT ADD TO HIS FRAUSTRATIONS BECAUSE HE ISNT HAPPY BEEN JOBLESS AS WELL.UNDERSTAND THAT ITS NOT EASY TO GET A JOB IN NIGERIA.STAY BLESSED IN THE LORD JESUS CHRIST.SHALOM

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  2. OK....I ve bookmarked this page...I am coming back to read and comment again

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  3. Any small thing, they run to Amara. So you can't sit your boyfriend down and have a heart to heart talk with him abi? U want Amara to do that for you? Na wa o. Poster, it's either your boyfriend is lazy&doesnt want to accept change or he doesn't have the means to settle in another city. The choice is yours.

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  4. It seems u are forcing him instead. Of encouraging him. Ask him his plans since he dosent want to travel to another state. And encourage him to start with any little job.

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