Wednesday, June 24, 2015

Is this enough reason?

Aunty Amara good afternoon,I thank God for what He is using you to do in the life of many.
I pray you also help me now...
A guy proposed to me,i accepted.
We both stay in the same state though am a student while he is working.
When I was in school,he calls me frequently,to know how am doing but since I travelled to villa,he doesn't call often,sometimes he won't even call the whole day unless if I tried calling him,he won't pick and later calls me back.
Yet he wants to do my introduction next week but these were the things I noticed the little time I stayed with him.
Firstly,he maybe answering calls but once I stepped inside the room,he will tell the person that he will call her back...which I know he is still dating his former girlfriend,I asked.him he told me that he is looking for a way to quit the relationship that he can't just tell the girl to go without any reason,yet he asked me to tell my friends to stop calling me.
Secondly,he love sex and plays so much,the day he asked me for sex,I refused,the next day he called that his girlfriend to his house,when I asked him he told me that since I refused giving him that he called the person that wants to give him.But some days after he told me that he didn't do anything with the girl that he called her to know what I will do.
Thirdly,he hides some certain things for me which I did found out from his friend.
Though I love him but is this enough reason to tell him that I don't want the marriage.
Help me

Dear sender, 
He is still with the ex...  Can you cope with his ex and other girlfriends should he marry you?
He doesn't know how to break up with his ex, would you accommodate all of those in your home? 
He hides a lot from you...  Why then did you accept his proposal or were you too excited that you forgot that marriage isn't filled with excitements but realities of individual's differences. 
He hides his phone from you and discharges others when you step in... Please what is he hiding? 
Hope you are ready and willing to live with this secret for the rest of your life? 
If yes, then you don't need to worry, only pray and believe God for the very best of your marriage. 
However if truly you have some worries, fears, concerns and uncertainties about his personality and the relationship, do well to make out time to discuss these with him and also meditate on what's best for you and the relationship. 
It would be more rewarding to terminate a relationship than it is to terminate a marriage. 
The choice is yours and same is the consequences. 

3 comments:

  1. I wouldn't advise u to marry someone who ur aren't sure of. Listen! Marriage is for better for worse,that guy doesn't have any iota of respect and love for u. Search urself well before committing.

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  2. I wouldn't advise u to marry someone who ur aren't sure of. Listen! Marriage is for better for worse,that guy doesn't have any iota of respect and love for u. Search urself well before committing.

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  3. Sweetie run run run for your dear life

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