Tuesday, July 14, 2015

How to make a relationship blossom without sex

Good day ma,please i would like to know how best to make a relationship blossom,be lively and lead to marriage without romance and sex. 
It seems all guys describe the level of seriousness of a relationship only based on sex.
How can i make a man understand that i love him without having sex with him thank you.

Dear sender,
I know in our present times, virginity is a taboo and those who choose to engage in a relationship devoid of sex are mocked as being naive and old fashioned but I must commend you for choosing to honour God and to also help yourself by avoiding the tales by the moonlight which ends up most times as woes of the rejected and emotionally drained heart.
Anyone who makes you feel that the purpose of a relationship is sex isn't doing you any favour but is simply using your body to meet his need and may never take you serious afterwards.
To men sex could be anything but a genuine way of expressing love to a lady.
How then do you build a prosperous and fulfilling relationship without making sex an item in it.
Please do not be unnecessarily demanding, when all that you do in a relationship is demanding for time,attention, care, resources, and complaining or comparing him with another, you maybe sending a negative signal of a lady who came for a business transactions and he would automatically look forward to profiting from such relationship in which sex would be a fair benefit for him.
Do not lose your identity all because you feel that without him you won't survive, succeed or simply be happy in life.
That's a negative vibe to send to you partner and most times, he may exploit it to your own peril.
You want to keep your body from sex,please help him by dressing decently and avoid keeping late nights or weekends or creating an avenues that suggest that your body is weak but your spirit is willing.
Because men are moved by what they see, do well to minimise what they desire to see so that they wouldn't want to gain experience with your body.

Strong relationships are built around the vision, passion and commitment of the partners to a purpose that they are convinced about.
Strong relationships are built on an enduring freedom that friendship brings and the joy of helping each other succeed in their own lives or goals.
Strong relationships are built in understanding the personality and individual's attitude to life, love and God.
Relationship is not a romance fantasy but a reality journey with many uncertainties and sometimes challenges.
When a partner is genuinely interested in you and you are sincerely interested in him/her you open up to the realities of your strength and weaknesses and then get to know what you can endure, tolerate, accept or not be able to cope with.
Strong relationships are built by individuals who are emotionally mature to make some brave decisions about life and their need not those who rely on their parents or friends to push them left or right.
Strong relationships are built by responsible individuals who are not afraid to take risks for the sake of the other nor afraid of the opinions of others but are convinced and willing to give their heart to see the vision become a reality.
Strong relationships are built by individuals who have a personal relationship with God, understand His purpose for marriage, who are willing to pay walk in obedience to God's word and seek to daily hear from him in every decision they take not those that rely on prophets, pastors, or men of God for everything they do or intend to do.
So you do not necessarily need to convince him that you love him, your attitude to the relationship, and to him would naturally convince him of your love and commitment to the relationship and not by losing the essence and purpose of your life all because you want to keep a partner.
In all, you cannot keep a partner by your efforts but any partner who is convinced of who he is, understands his vision and knows what he need to succeed in his ministry would naturally grow in love with you without making you over labour yourself to "please" him.

2 comments:

  1. All guys do not desribe the seriousness of a relationship based on the frequency of sexual intercourse....That is a wrong notion....
    Some guys do....Some ladies do too..
    You also need to look for your type of man...A man that shares the same belief with you...A man that also says No to sex before marriage...By so doing, you wouldnt need to spend time trying to convince a man against his wish...We all have different beliefs when it comes to relationship issues...
    The problem now is that most ladies do not really care to date men that share the same belief as them and that is why many relationships struggle...Once the money is available...Automatically...the guy becomes God sent...On the long run..it becomes a contest between both parties instead of a union...The man wanting the woman to buy into his beliefs and ideas...The woman wanting the man to dance to her own tune...simply because they share different beliefs and perceptions..

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  2. sex is meant to be enjoyed only in marriage. the issue of sex before marriage is a 50/50 both sex are guilty of it.
    if he cant wait for marriage then he is not worth being the one

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