Monday, July 27, 2015

Should I call off the engagement?

I just graduated. I have been in a relationship for sometimes now am engaged now and is supposed to be wedding before the end of this year.
I and my partner don't quarrel always but each time I offend him he would like me to cry out the whole tears inside of me.
He would always tell me that my sorry means nothing to him.
Little offence he would threaten me with a break up. Tell me that if he continues with me that I might ruin him one day.
Always compares me with his mum, sisters and other females.
Any mistake I make will make him tell me how senseless we women are and how poor my rationale is, always asking me if am a woman at all.
He can argue well and most times I don't like arguing with him because I know that will only make matters worse.
Even when i know that am right I keep on apologizing because I love him and always want him to be happy and for peace to reign.
On the other hand I forgive him easily and let the matter die immediately. He would always tell me how much he loves me wants the best for me.
So many times i have called him and told him that i don't like the words he uses on me and how he corrects me when am wrong and his response was that I will soon die because I hate being cautioned. The truth is that am tired of all these. I always cry out my heart at night praying that he will understand me and love me the same way I love him and respect my way but its not happening.
He doesn't value me. He has taken my respect, love and loyalty to be weakness.
What do I do? should I break up and call off the engagement? Please help me. Am really confused.

Dear sender,
If you can, try walking with one foot while suspending the other and write down your experience for your benefit.
When an individual discovers that his environment is unsafe for his health and decides to remain in there, he cannot blame anyone for the torture and abuse he receives.
It is awesome and lovely to know that he has proposed marriage to you but please how healthy have you been lately.
Spiritually, emotionally, psychologically and socially why do I feel like you're choking up and yet you don't want to help yourself?
Or is an engagement ring worth more than your happiness in life?
Why are you finding it difficult to help yourself fr from the emotional and psychological abuse you are experiencing all in the name of engagement?
Please for how long will you continue shedding tears for a man that ought to secure your feelings and make you smile?
Please sweetheart do you remember that someone is praying to have you and that your parents love and cherish you?
I wouldn't tell you what to do because I'm hurting knowing that you have chosen to torture yourself unnecessarily and tag it love.
If he abused you, compared you, threatened you with break up, delight in seeing you shed tears and continue to heap verbal venoms on you and you are still confused, then I am afraid, my suggestion may still not be sufficient.
Please talk to your heart and tell yourself some truth that no man would tell you.
I pray that God will really open your eyes and heart to do what is good for your happiness in life.

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  5. What are u confused about that u want to get married sharply or that ur guy is not ur match...pls use ur head joor love my foot a man that doesn't have respect for u, compare u to mum/sisters etc,a man that doesn't see anything good in you. Hmmmm can't you talk to ur mum or elder sister.....infact it's ur decision to take.

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  6. What are u confused about that u want to get married sharply or that ur guy is not ur match...pls use ur head joor love my foot a man that doesn't have respect for u, compare u to mum/sisters etc,a man that doesn't see anything good in you. Hmmmm can't you talk to ur mum or elder sister.....infact it's ur decision to take.

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  7. The truth be told Diva Amara atala ukwa, jaa eze biko. Really in my black and white opinion, that guy is the worse blunder you will regret if you marry him. I had same issue most annoying, his a xtian to the core. My life is more precious to me so I walked away. He was pleading but no Jupiter changed my mind. Now am very happy with someone who loves me just the way iam and HIS JESUS, until the right man comes. Nne marriage is not a do or die affairs...

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