Friday, August 28, 2015

How Do I Quit Sex in Relationship?

Hello Ma'am .... 
Good evening! Please post this issue as soon as possible.
Ma'am, I am a lady of 28 years old and I'm into a serious relationship which I pray that will lead to marriage soonest.
But Ma'am, how can someone stop sex in a relationship that will not lead to misunderstanding or break-up in relationship but will increase love, understanding and trust in the relationship.
Thank you and May God always increase His wisdom in you... Amen!

This would have been a lot easier if you never offered sex in the menu of your relationship or dating activities. 
The reason is because convincing him to understand your decision to withdraw sex will naturally bring suspicion, mistrust, fears and will definitely shake the foundation of your relationship. 
If you are seriously determined to make the right decision and do what is right and healthy for your relationship, please be ready for any inconvenience, difficulty, challenge and struggles that your relationship will be exposed to and be mindful that you may lose him to another person. 
What you need to do is help him understand your decision and reasons why you have resolved to do what is Godly and healthy for your relationship and spiritual growth. 
Assure him that it has nothing to do with his performance or your desire to marry another person. 
When you are done pouring your heart to him, encourage him to share his thoughts with you and tell you how he feels about it. 
Whatever maybe his views, please do not judge him or condemn him, only plead for his understanding and support. 
After revealing your intentions, please give him some time and continue to communicate with him while you listen more to see how he's coping with it. 
Please if you wouldn't keep up with your decision, there wouldn't be any need telling him that and ending up in his bed or the bed of another. 
Let this be a decision you are making with God to keep your body until you are married to your husband. 
If God has made him for you, he wouldn't leave you but if he's not the one for you, your decision will definitely push him out of your life. 
In all, you will be better off pleasing God than you will be pleasing man. 

Please do feel free to share your thoughts with me. 
Thank you for your comments on the blog. 

6 comments:

  1. Wisdom is profitable

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  2. If the guy is in a hurry let me go and pay your dowry, something he knows that will his own forever he shouldn't have been looking for sex, that his immediately demand for sex would have told u that their is no future in that relationship.

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  3. During our breakup conversation, he told me he hasn’t been happy for a while. No time frame was mentioned. Yet when we were together, he never once acted like there was anything wrong. We would laugh and joke just like before. He told be he’s tired of being lonely (I guess referring to us not living together). That made me feel so hurt for him because I NEVER wanted him to feel like that. I very loved him. I need get him back and my last chance was love spell . Entered on the website http://magical-rituals.com , because I read that he has a lot of positive feedback. I’m not disappoint. My lover back to me in only one month. We are happy couple now.

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