Monday, August 3, 2015

I feel horny sometimes

Good evening sweet mama, please I need your advice on an issue that is pressing me.
I'm into a relationship with prince charming. We've dated for a year now and last year December he went to see my parents and told them his intention of marrying me.When we started I made it clear to him that it's going to be no sex till we get married he agreed but we've had some serious quarrels because of it to the extent of calling off the relationship and coming back after some hours with him apologising.
And this was the third time he asked for it and this time around, he was damn serious about it.
I told him to go somewhere and get it to free himself and he said it sounds ridiculous that i don't love him.
Aunty please my problem is I also feel horny sometimes and I also want to have pleasure but I'm afraid, afraid because sex isn't for to-be couples but married couples so its a sin and also afraid of the penile entry because I've never had sex before.
I'm gradually masturbating which is also a sin. I just don't know if I should give in.

Dear sender, 
I appreciate your sincerity and honesty and I commend you for having the courage and boldness to open up and seek for counsel. 
Sex is beautiful creation from God, every adult whether single or married do crave for sex and have moments when they feel horny for a fresh and wonderful love making. 
This is what makes you human being, healthy sexual being and a normal lady whose hormones are singing for the man who will take you to the alternative. 
You don't say no to sex because you don't feel like or need it but because you need the safety, security, assurance, support, understanding and selfless sacrifice of your husband to enjoy the beauty and benefits of a fulfilling sexual experience. 
You don't say no because you are punishing any man who came for a relationship with you but because sex is sacred and holy unto God, a gift you cannot give to any man all because he promised you heaven on earth or because he told you what others have never told you before. 
The reason is because you cannot hold any man responsible with sex nor can you guarantee that he would remain with you after the sexual experience. 
These and many others were the reasons God designed sex to be enjoyed and celebrated in a Marital union with all freedom and gratitude. 
I wouldn't tell you that those feelings wouldn't come back but I will remind you that giving a man who hasn't paid for your dowry may expose you to some hard times should you get pregnant or abortion should you not get the support that you ought to from your partner. 
I would encourage you not to give up on your convictions by giving in to sex before marriage. 
The story may not be the same after the encounter. 
Masturbation like you know is self pleasuring of the body and it doesn't help you emotionally, spiritually and psychologically. 
Instead of thinking of Maturation as an escape route I would suggest that you get your mind busy with thoughts of faith, personal development, skill acquisition, and wealth creation. 
All you need is to change your thoughts and understanding of sex and focus on what will make you happy and positive while you wait for your husband.
Any man can do anything to land into your pleasure pot but only the man who took the courage to pay your bride prize deserve all your beauty. 
As to being afraid of the Rod of pleasure, you need not be afraid of the rod, it doesn't kill nor hurt because God has provided a fountain fluid that will minimise the pains when your husband desires you. 
All you need to do will be to relax your mind, with adequate arousal, your body will naturally produce lovely juices and that will make things pretty lovely and beautiful for you and him. 
And in an event that your body didn't produce adequate fluid, a good water based lubricant would do the needful and you wouldn't even know when he's in your paradise. 
For now please encourage him to be patient and understanding so that you two will enjoy the beauty of each other with God's favour without any shame, worries or fears. 
I am hopeful that this will greatly help you to appreciate your body, help you remain steadfast and inspire you to wait for marriage to unravel the treasure chest to your love. 
Do commit everything to God who understands how you feel and please do not let the devil destroy your body with maturation. 
All the best dear. 

1 comment:

  1. Starving your self when you need what you have is also a since

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