Friday, September 18, 2015

Does She Value Me?

Good afternoon AVL and FANS
Without wasting much time.
Am a married lady,even when I was single having much friends wasn't my thing so I always prefer having one friend at a time who I always call my bestie. 
I have a good job and she is not working,she just finished from the university.
So because of that I paid all her bills in full,I got myself a Samsung galaxy s6+ and I got her iPhone 6, I helped her fix her apartment. I took her as my own family.
If i tried to help people, she will get upset,I don't understand her. Age wise or talking about class or levels,she is not my mate in age in class or in level, but I don't look at all that because I like living very simple and free but I noticed something about her,she doesn't want me close to anybody and if someone tried getting close to me she will be so angry with me. So I was very sick that I was hospitalised.
I told her that I was sick,this was the situation,she never cared to call or ping,she cooked up an excuse saying that she didn't have credit but when I was sending money for my siblings, I also sent her money.
So other people am not always there for called,some texted while others pinged. So I uploaded their names on my Bbm profile saying thanks to them.
My bestie got angry and started abusing me saying am pathetic, am married I should have sense, am this am that.
I got angry I deleted her from all my social network. I later apologised to her for deleting her but she acted like she was very right and till today she can't say sorry for insulting me.
Rather she was using her sister to chat with me,sending the cousin to check on me and all that,at times she will try to view my pix on whatapp and will mistakenly call me through WhatsApp,and when I tell her I saw your WhatsApp missed call she will act like am not the one.
Sincerely I don't know what to do,does she value me or what.
Why is she stalking me am just curious?
What do I do?
How do I solve this?
Thank you.God bless you all.

It takes a benevolent heart for you  to always be there for your friend when she was in need and I believe that both of you must have been through so much together for her to have earned your trust and confidence in her personality. 
However I have some reservations for a "bestie"  who wouldn't desire that her friend keep friends or prosper in life. 
It sends a wrong signal to me as someone who either wanted to get married to you or was bent on becoming better than you which wasn't possible hence her attitude to hurt and make mockery of your personality and your good intentions which also makes me wonder if you truly need this bestie of yours. 
I am not in anyway trying to make you feel bad about your friend but from the little that you have revealed, if that was truly what happened, then I feel that you may need to be more cautious than you ever thought. 
A true friend is one who have good intentions for you and will celebrate with you even when she may not be there yet. 
A true friend is someone who will stand by you and encourage you when you are down and not make it look as though you must worship her till the point of death. 
And for her to have attacked you the way she did shows that she has never been happy with your success in life and I pray sincerely that your relationship with your bestie wouldn't cost you something that you may regret much later in life. 
I would strongly suggest that you focus on your marriage and give some space to your bestie to avoid tales by the moonlight. 
I know that you have good intentions towards her but when your good intentions is evil spoken of, for the sake of your relationship with God, please do not push it any further. 
Now that you are married, things definitely ought not to be the same with her anymore because you cannot tell her how you and your husband take care of each other and provide the need of your home.
You cannot open up to her and sulk up with everything she throws at you because you are now married and your attention is needed much more by your husband than your bestie. 
For now please focus on your marriage and let your bestie deal with her inferiority complex. 
You only owe her your respect and good devotion, every other thing is at your own discretion and please be wary of those your friends who you feel are there for you because they are most times the same people that the devil uses to destroy the marriage. 
If you are lead to help her or support her in anyway possible, please do not be discouraged to do so but one thing you must do as a matter of necessity for the sake of your home and your marriage is that you must give some space and keep distance from some good friends so that you don't get distracted and end up losing your home by your negligence to the need of your husband. 

8 comments:

  1. Samsung galaxy s6 edge =# 165,000
    I Phone 6 = 270, 000
    TOTAL = #435,000
    Items bought = Just phones
    For who? Yourself and your Bestie..
    Reason = Charity
    Comment = Issorite
    Now i hope your parents and children are all using assorted phones too...I hope you've built a mansion for your parents in the village...I hope all your siblings are very comfortable and wealthy...I hope you're cruising around with the latest Range Rover Evoque 2015 model...I also hope there is a Mercedes-Benz 2015 G - wagon and a 2015 Toyota prado Jeep parked in the Garage...I hope you live in a sky scraper also and i hope you have a battalion of fully armed and well fed police men guarding your compound...
    If all these requirements are not fully met and you had the morale to do all these for your bestie, Then madam, There is every reason to suspect that you're into something seriously fishy with this Bestie of yours...
    Come out of that relationship with that woman now and save yourself and your marriage...The end is always tragic..

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    1. Joseph wetin happen naaaa??? well i dnt knw dis person n wat she does buh some pple ar jst selfless and can go d xtramiles to mak others happy....whereas nobody is der to mak dem happy. she might jst b doin dt cos she has the means to do so, most of such relationship exist amongs ladies ....som of dme laugh with you buh deir mind is lik avin a gun n shooting you...

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    2. I use to have a jobless and Lazy friend like that. She will never be of any good use or influence to me but will be quick to remind me that she is my friend, so I need to sacrifice my happiness for her. Thank God that we are no longer together. Like my colleague said, she is just blackmailing me with friendship !

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  2. Well am not surprised at this write up....jst recently it happened to my wife...she has dis "friend" who my spirit doesnt connect with all the time i told my wife and she says and she's nice n all on the day of our wedding she played out some parts of her mind and my wife got angry and i told her to keep calm dat av always told her buh she feels its just me....some ladies the way the envy and beef n hate you ehen na only God go help us live right with such.......severe the relationship make ur hubby ur bestie and enjoy ur home abeg....

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  4. Hi i want to give thanks to priest Aluta Magic Temple for helping me bring back my ex back, i was seriously in a heartbreak with my ex and i think all hope was lost until i was browsing the internet and i saw a testimony that someone shared about priest Aluta Magic Temple and i choose to contact him also to see if he can still help me i gave him a trial but at the end joy and happiness filled my heart i have never believed in a spell caster because i have been a victim of scammers on the internet, he casted a love spell on my ex to make realize the truth. My Ex who break up with me for more than 9 month called me after 5 days of metting Dr Aluta and she want to come back to me she even apologize to all she had done to me and want my forgiveness. so reader if you are out there looking for the help of any kind in your relatinship or marriage or bring back EX you are advise to contact his email; traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com

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    1. Go to your village and advertise that to some brainwashed mugus ! On this forum, we believe in prayer and God !

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  5. How to deal with the situation? JUST STARVE THE RELATIONSHIP - STOP FEEDING IT. Starve it of attention,time,care,etc.,and it will die a natural death. 'Ihukwa m nonsense!' ‪#Quick‬Downloads™101

    http://aminspired247.blogspot.in/2015/03/quick-downloads-101-over-500-free.html

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