Monday, October 5, 2015

He Ignores my Messages!

Hello Aunty Amara, been a long time I posted anything. After my last post, yes I took your advice and of every comment. Thank you so much for the good work. 
I'm having some challenges again. I know this guy in my church, though not a member but he comes around often. I can't say we were friends but he was just someone I know. 
He left this country in 2013 and in January 2015, I got a Facebook request from him. Initially, I didn't know he was the one cos I didn't even know his name. He later introduced himself and we got talking. 
Some days later, he asked me if I believe I can meet my soulmate on a social media, I laughed and said yes not because I was suspecting anything but because I don't really see how that may be wrong or impossible. We later exchanged phone contacts. Indeed we call each other and most times chat on whatsapp or Facebook. 
Aunty Amara my worry is that he keeps assuring me, we have both confessed love for each other and anytime I'm having doubts, he assures me of his love verbally. But each time, his female friends on Facebook post pictures, he definitely likes and comments on them. 
Most times I initiate a chat or call and I kept complaining that he never chat me up until I do. 
What I have also noticed is that, he comes online, sees my messages and never replies until when he feels like. I'm so very confused he said he will be back soon and I will see that everything will be fine. I don't want to receive a shocker. Please in I need your advice. Thank you

Beautiful, I understand that those worms of love are already dancing in your tummy and yes it does feel like heaven when you meet that person that makes you feel completely exceptional and extraordinary. 
But as much as I can understand your mail, he has only said I love you and is simply filling a void in your heart which you have no idea what his purpose or intents are. 
Will he marry you or simply waste your time is totally unknown to you hence my worry about the time and energy you waste to monitor his profile and detect every of his comments and activities. 
I would rather suggest that you simply treat him as your Facebook friend and focus on what will give you some money, happiness and peace of mind. 
Appreciate his care and attention but always remember that until the relationship is defined, you are simply one of his friends and there's every possibility that he may be assuring another pretty lady on Facebook and possibly over there of his love just as he's doing with you. 
So until he's home, please don't feel at home with him. 
Love will definitely favour you, please be patient and wise especially when you are on social media for your own safety anyways. 

1 comment:

  1. "Aunty Amara my worry is that he keeps assuring me, we have both confessed love for each other and anytime I'm having doubts, he assures me of his love verbally. But each time, his female friends on Facebook post pictures, he definitely likes and comments on them"..
    Dear poster,
    This statement alone clearly shows you're the major cause of your own headache..
    You shouldn't be too possessive of a guy that is not yours yet..
    That he professed his love for you is no guarantee that he's so into you..
    Talk is cheap and people lie..you should know this..You need to cease from wishful thinking and face reality...He could eventually be yours yet he could also not be...your actions and worries would never influence his decision..
    Just stay calm and make your self happy...Don't build all your trust on a guy you are not sure of....stop monitoring his facebook activities...you're only causing yourself emotional torture...

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