Thursday, October 29, 2015

He Was Telling all Sorts of Lies Against Me!

Good evening ma. Thanks for a job well done. I needed an urgent advice as soon as possible.
I dated this guy for five years. Both of us lives in Europe I never knew he has someone else he wanted to marry. 
In 2013 he went to Nigeria he saw my family an did introduction and he promised them that both of us will be coming to Nigeria for our traditional marriage, then he asked me to move into his home.
Meanwhile when he was going I instead of going with him too he said no that it was a waste of money, after some months I become pregnant and he started misbehaving due to the stress I had a miscarriage. 
After one month I took in, again he started chatting with different girls on phone and Facebook, he started telling people around me that he has someone else he wanted to marry not me that he was just doing those things he did with me for all this five years for fun. 
Before this time if I am pregnant he will tell me to go for an abortion that he was not ready yet. I left the country we were together for another country without his assistance and to the glory of God I gave birth to a baby girl. Though he do come around to visit us, since I put to bed he has been begging me for us to come back. 
I decided to forgive him because of our child. Still yet I am the one taking care of my child alone,  he gave me his phone today thinking he has signed out of his Facebook I saw his messages with this same girl in Africa that I gave birth to my child by force telling her all sorts of lies about me that she should not mind me that when his child grows she will look for him that he still love her and she still use his picture as profile picture in her Facebook.

If all he did on your head was an introduction, I am sorry to say that he is a single man who have not committed anything to the relationship nor has he defined exactly what he wants from you or the relationship. 
Thankfully there is a precious daughter in the picture, my suggestion would be that you that you separate yourself from him and put to an end the unnecessary humiliation, stress and emotional torture that he brings to you in the name of relationship. 
The worst kind of person to live with is the person who pities you for being a human or for being in love with him. 
Instead living as though you are married to him, I would suggest that you let him know that you are not comfortable with living in his room and bearing children for him while he makes promises to all the ladies within his radar. 
Appreciate yourself and celebrate your baby while you demand for the upkeep funds for your baby. 
The moment you discovered that he's got so many lies in his sleeves, you shouldn't consider forgiveness before repentance, it should be the other way round. 
Forgive yourself for the choices and decisions you made yesterday, do not live in regrets but make a better decision today and and look forward for a brighter future. 
But from all you said, if he hasn't paid any dowry on you, he's simply not committed to you. 

3 comments:

  1. I wish women would wisen up. Sweetheart, I'm sorry that you have been through all that. But,u have so many many years ahead. You don't even want to marry an animal like this dude. Forget all the wasted years,don't waste anymore. Move on!

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  2. A lot of people are in situations such as this. Let us not condemn her bu offer her useful tips to overcome her emotions and be a stronger individual. Truly, she has done nothing wrong to love. But at this point, me think she has given enough and it's time to say good bye. There is always a better one out there. Believe!

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  3. A lot of people are in situations such as this. Let us not condemn her bu offer her useful tips to overcome her emotions and be a stronger individual. Truly, she has done nothing wrong to love. But at this point, me think she has given enough and it's time to say good bye. There is always a better one out there. Believe!

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