Friday, November 27, 2015

I Know I Have Offended God!

Am 24 years old.. I have a six months old daughter.. But am not married yet..
I met this man, 2011 aged 31.. And we both fell in love, he owns a Hotel, and an open Bar too. He has money that makes girls flock around him.. He's a nice man, and he has the heart to give...
At first I never knew he was a married man when we started dating.. I just opened my heart to accept his love; I fell in love with him so deeply that I couldn't do anything without letting him know or taking permission from him..
He later told me he was married but having issues with his wife.. Then I became his listening ear, because I realized he needed someone to talk to and listened to him when he complained about his wife..
I knew he had a lot of girlfriends apart from me, but I just had this belief that I could change him, and I was following my heart too..
I got a lot of complaints that he was a pu*** eater, even most of my friends all stopped talking to me because I was dating a married man....
Although he was a married man but he changed my way of life and way of thought..
He helps his workers academically, buy them provision, buy them phones and all.. I thought he was doing that out of charity.. Not knowing his mission...
I was friendly with his workers and they all liked me.
Not until one day he rented a room and parlour self contain for me and three of his workers to stay, because we all got admission in the same university...
I never knew what his plan was..
I started having this feeling that he was having an affair with one of the girls..
One morning he told me he was sick and I went to his place to check on him, I knocked on the door but it took him some time to open and when he did he was sweating like hell..
Not knowing he finished having sex with one of the girls am close with... I almost took my life that day..
To cut the story short...
He slept with all three girls that was living with me, slept with one of his workers and got her pregnant, got one of the three girls pregnant, and got me pregnant too..
When I found out they were all pregnant for him I wanted to abort the baby but a stranger told me I will die if I do..
My parents were disappointed..,
I never had this love from this man when I was pregnant, I wasn't expecting much...
I go to school from Ikotun every day to Yaba ... I leave the house by 4am to school with my pregnancy..
The man I love changed totally, even when I say something about those girls he would beat me with my pregnancy...
I bled most times and when I call him he won't come..
I get help from most strangers...
To God be the Glory we all gave birth safely.,.
I had to tell him to come see me at the hospital when I gave birth..
The first girl gave birth to a girl, the second gave birth to a boy then I gave birth to a girl...
Even at that his character towards me never changed..
I blame myself and I feel am being punished by God...
He called me one day that I should bring the baby for some test , which I did, and when the result came out.. He found out that those other two weren't his kids but just mine...
At the same time one of the remaining girls was pregnant for him...
I felt weak, I remember when I asked him what he wanted he said peace of mind..
Even as at now if I speak of those remaining girls he would beat me like a slave...
He would use belt or his slippers to beat me up..
Now I don't what to do, I cant stay with that kind of man, he has so many girlfriends which he professes love to, and call them baby on phone even when am there...
My baby is six months and am schooling, he is the person paying for my academic fees..
I don't know what to do anymore. I know I have offended God and our Mother Mary...
Have asked for mercy..
Please I need your advice on what to do.

Sweetheart, please tell me, what lead you to him? Why him? 
You knew that he was married but you still went ahead to sleep with him in the name of listening to him? 
How much are you worth that you have allowed him to treat you as though you were not carried for nine months nor created by God? 
I'm sincerely broken and I feel your pains but my problem is why did you choose to punish yourself and now blame God? 
Does your body really deserve those beatings and will you now become a slave to him for how long and how much? 
Please if you can and if it's convenient for you, save your head and the health of your daughter and return back home. 
God has forgiven you but you owe your daughter your love and support even without education. 
That he's paying your fees doesn't mean that you should be killed by him. 
It's pathetic and painful already so please do not make it complex by allowing him to torture you in that manner. 
God is not in any way punishing you and it's not his intentions that you will suffer in pains and agony. 
Even if you can't raise your baby without his support and he's unwilling to support you and your baby, kindly consult the help department of your church for assistance and support or in extreme case consider adoption that is if you have done everything within your capacity but didn't succeed. 
If the presence of your baby means suspending your academics at the interim, kindly do that and start up a business to help you raise funds for your baby. 
There is more fulfilment and peace with the money you earn than with the ones that you receive from others. 
Please you don't deserve this humiliation dear, I am pleading with you to please have mercy on yourself and save your life to avoid dying in his arms. 
May God really help you and may He strengthen your heart and help you to discover how precious and beautiful you are in him. 
May He provide all that you need at this critical point of your life and help you to overcome this turbulent experience that you have found yourself in. 
May he send a helper to help you and may God favour you in all your endeavours. 
It's well with you and your baby. 


  1. Dear Poster, Shey you knew he was married right? Umu-nwanyi ufodi and their stupid greedy mindset. Now na Morning!

    I hope you have updated ur facebook with "All men are dogs" in relation to this ur heartbreak?

  2. From your first paragraph its obvious you fell in love with his money. I thank God you know now that being nice and having money doesn't make a person an Angel. He's married so you have no business with him in the first place.

  3. Its greed 2 pushed u 2 him...u can imagine ! U were giving him listening ears because u have become earpiece abi ? U never took sometime 2 tink y him n his wife were ve problem ....u re regretting because he doesn't care about if reverse was d case u ll be feelin fly.....some of u ladies are very wicked , u try 2 push another woman out of her home n tink God ll sit n watch u enjoy ? Lie lie

  4. This goes to the poster and anyone else that might be in her shoes or somewhat. Believe no amount of stories a "married man" tells you about his marriage. It's just a strategy they use to get girls. Most of the time, these men have the most adorable and submissive wives. I won't remind you of your wrong but we wise. If leaving him will make you stay out of school then leave him, nurse your child, get a part time job and get back to school. There is greater fulfillment knowing you achieved something by yourself, through your sweat.
    Good luck!

  5. Dear poster ,there is no amount of sin that God cannot forgive so long as will come with a contrite heart.ibelieve you have learnt your lesson but u did in the hard way,but you need to get yourself out of that situation,get your self worth back he is the father of the child fine its his responsibility to provide for the child and you don't have to be under his watch and care for him to do that.if he insists you have to keep staying where you are then by all means take your baby leave and forget him,go back to your family and friends im sure they will accept you back.most of all turn to God ,he has not forsaken you he has forgiven you and he can turn things around for you just trust in him.
    All the best

  6. Once some girls see a man with money or affluence their brain is scrambled, you never thought about God before sleeping repeatedly with a married man? All because of money! Well u can't eat your cake and have turn to God for your salvation first sincerely so his holy spirit will do what he does best thats restoration and to all greedy selfish girls out there u better learn your lesson and oh hope you also find out your HIV status


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