Thursday, December 24, 2015

How Can I Get a Man Who won't Mind my Children?

Good morning ma please I have a burden. I'm at the verge of divorce as a result of domestic violence, emotional torture and loneliness. My husband abandoned me sexually too even though we live in same house, this denial has lasted for more than three years he abandoned huge part of our financial responsibility and our children's up keep.
He doesn't really have yielding source of income yet turns down several offers and suggestions from me or any other person. He is also a chronic unrepentant casanova and throws some of his moves to my face.
My marriage with him has lasted for ten years and I have been praying and hopping he will change. We are blessed with four kids. I'm about to leave the marriage but I'm afraid what the future holds as my salary is just N45000 and I cannot foot the entire bills alone I really wish to remarry and experience love and acceptance. I wish to find a good widower who will accept me with my children. I'm gripped with the fear of the unknown and what the future holds if I happen to walk away. Please what do I do how can I meet a good widower or single man who won't mind my children? Please I need your help.

Through it all, you have invested so much to make your marriage succeed. 
You prayed, fasted and sacrificed your all to raise your children. I know that you have gotten to the breaking limit of your marriage but quitting may not give you the happiness and love that you crave for and the safety and welfare of your children may not be guaranteed in the arms of a new partner. 
Within you is unlimited questions but outside you are unlimited challenges that will try your faith and test your convictions. 
From your mail,I feel that the most important challenge in your marriage is financial capacity of your husband and the needs of your home. 
Instead of choosing to quit marriage, maybe you should consider expanding your sources of income and engaging the support of your children to help you raise more income that will meet the needs of your family and also cater for your needs too. 
I may not  have said what you wished to hear but I also do know that quitting may have either a positive or a negative impact on your children and your life but the decision is yours to make. 
Seek the face of God and meditate on the possible outcome of your decision so that you can possibly prepare yourself for any eventualities.


  1. How have coped all this year? A violent man, a cheat, a man who neglects his key responsibilities, a man who would starve his wife sex, that's no marriage to me. Divorce is not an option but in some cases it's the only option. Good luck

  2. It's a horrible thing you are experiencing but keep praying, you may threaten him with divorce and see his reaction not that you should divorce him tho...

  3. It's a horrible thing you are experiencing but keep praying, you may threaten him with divorce and see his reaction not that you should divorce him tho...

  4. Ma, I understand how you feel but I advise you stay in your marriage and continue to hope in God for his favour. Try and live within your means. Some of your mates are already widows and they are coping nevertheless. Quitting and getting into another marriage now won't bring you love but may add more inconveniences. No man desires a liability and you come with bags of it. If you tarry and diversify your means of income, you would find some relief. As for your philandering husband, pray for God to change him. Treat him well and please I hope you don't nag and illtreat him. We have not heard his own story. Wish you the best


  5. I am here to give testimony of how i got back my husband, we got married for over 9 years and we had two kids. thing were going well with us and we where always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treated me and the kids. later that month he did not come back home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted traditional spell hospital for the return of my husband to me, they told me that my husband have been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then they told me that they have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, they casted the spell and after 1 week my husband called me and he told me that i should forgive him, he started to apologize on phone and said that he still live me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that he casted on him that make him come back to me. my family and i are now happy again. Thank you Dr. Aluta for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want you my friends who are passing through all this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact and you will see that your problem will be solved without any delay. He cast spells for different purposes


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