Tuesday, December 29, 2015

I Finally Fell For Him!

Good day and season's greetings Ma'am. I am 29 years old "single" and seriously needs your advice and that of your lovely fans as well on this.
I am so confused at the moment and can't even explain how I feel now,for letting myself down like this. There was a male friend of mine who is 32 years old,that I have known since 2013 August,then he was asking me out for a date even though he was seeing someone then I felt so reluctant about the whole thing and told him no.But even before then I have been abstaining from sex for personal reasons.
Fast forward 2014,he kept contacting me and asking me to come visit him at his base because we were at different location,and state which I objected to it,because I wouldn't want him demanding sex from me plus he was still dating the other girl.
So in 2015 it continued with his demand of me visiting him which I never went,rather I ignored him,not until this festive period he came back home demanded we see which I obliged after much begging to see him and gave him a listening ears of what he has to say to me......
He wanted a serious relationship no jokes and his ex was married early this year according to him.
I then asked him to define the relationship and he asked me what was my challenge? I asked him to be specific to what he meant by that and he was yet to speak up.
N:B....My biggest sadness was the fact that we had something to do after seeing him and what pained me much was after abstaining for all this long I fell for him. Most men just kept complaining I am stiff with my principles ,decisions and stubborn.
Thank you ma'am your time and sorry for my long write up.

You see when you don't understand the purpose for which God advocated that you keep your body, you will definitely fall for the tricks of the devil and be disappointed.
You need not cry over what you chose to give to your friend after he persevered and finally convinced you why your legs should be lunched for operation. 
Return back to God ask him for mercies and decide this time to keep your body not to win the award of the most principled, disciplined, stubborn and stiff lady in town but simply because your body belongs to the Lord and your husband not every man who claims to love you. 
Choose from today to define the bounds of the relationship and why you cannot continue to offer the free lunch of free sex and let him know that you are not going to compromise on your personal relationship with God for a man who you cannot guarantee has any intentions to get married to you. 
Forgive yourself and surrender all to God who is merciful and faithful to strengthen your heart and emotions and give you virtues that worth much more than your virginity. 
Tell yourself the truth and avoid environment and areas that may trigger you into having sex or giving him the green light by the way you dress and express yourself around him. 
Whether he's interested in the relationship or not is immaterial, what matters most is that you don't allow anyone to exploit your weakness against youryour personal convictions and purpose in life and marriage.
Yesterday is gone, there is mercy and grace for today, please embrace it and renew your heart to grow in the love of God and in your selfless devotion to God. 

5 comments:

  1. The hardest thing now is if this relationship can go on without Sex cuz of the 1st meeting.u fuckup big time u 29,u smart and know what u want.i pray that guy is for real sha.but he's gonna disturb u die for Sex and gonna be hard off Sex relationship with him.

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  2. The hardest thing now is if this relationship can go on without Sex cuz of the 1st meeting.u fuckup big time u 29,u smart and know what u want.i pray that guy is for real sha.but he's gonna disturb u die for Sex and gonna be hard off Sex relationship with him.

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  3. Mtcheww is not always easy but i fought out mine,i lived my dream,married and am living where i want to stay(US),i was disvirgined by husbamd but my dear just like aunty Amara said,zip up,rely on God's grace,dont see yourself as super power but on great grace of God,your are still young enough,mine was later than your age and am still a celebrity by my husband.I saw challenges but its possible

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  4. Mtcheww is not always easy but i fought out mine,i lived my dream,married and am living where i want to stay(US),i was disvirgined by husbamd but my dear just like aunty Amara said,zip up,rely on God's grace,dont see yourself as super power but on great grace of God,your are still young enough,mine was later than your age and am still a celebrity by my husband.I saw challenges but its possible

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  5. I sensed deceit in this man,ask for God,s mercy and move on.My Bible tells me "no one will lack his/her mate.Your dignity is still intact.

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