Wednesday, December 23, 2015

I Know that He Wasn't my Husband!

Hello ma, compliments of the season. May God bless you with more wisdom. Please ma, am so confused right now at this stage of my life. I have asked God for forgiveness which I knew he has forgiven me.
I have done things am not proud of but the only thing is the product of it are my lovely kids. Ma I got hooked up with a married man but I don't know if I should say he was married cos according to him he was not married to the woman he lives with.
We started dating then I got pregnant for him and I have three kids for him now. All along our relationship there have been ups and down because he beats me at any point of argument we had. Then my parents even supported that he should go pay my bride prize since I had children for him.
But I know deep down in me he was not my husband. So then he wasn't financial fit so the bride prize wasn't paid. Now ma I am tired of him I just want my own man and because of my kids now am just too scared to move on with my life.
Please ma I need your advice to know how to stand on my decisions not move on with him. I have told him to go be with his wife but he kept on saying he can't leave his kids with another man to come father his children. Please ma help me. Sorry for the long write up sorry ma.


When you build on a wrong foundation, it can never succeed no matter what you invest in building it. 
You partner enjoys the free sex and children that you have promised him when you accepted to cohabit with him and give him three children, just like his first partner, he may never pay your dowry but will gladly invite another lady and give her many reasons to produce more children for him. 
I believe in doing the right thing so kindly pack your things and your children and go back to your parents and family. 
He can still have access to his children when he chooses to but stop living with a man who haven't paid your dowry and hope that he will do anything about that. 
Dowry isn't that expensive and with understanding and good communication, your family may even reduce what he was meant to bring but let him take that bold step and get married both legally and traditionally, that way you can give him the support and the love that he craves for. 
If he's not willing to do that, kindly bid him goodbye and trust God for your own husband and your home. 

4 comments:

  1. Dear poster..
    You simply want out because your relationship with him is no longer what you dreamt of...
    If the going was still rosy, you'd have been relaxing in the arms of another womans husband ryt now instead of posting to Aunty Amara..
    You're not posting this because you regret what you did and wish to turn a new leaf...
    Reality has set in...
    True colours are now shining....
    You'll need further advice the moment you decide to repent...
    You took hostage of another womans husband so what makes you think there's a man out there waiting for you?
    Did you keep a spare man somewhere?
    You can't sow beans and reap Maize...
    Anyway...God is still a merciful God sha...
    For now...all you need is repentance and total submission to God...
    That's all you need

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  2. How do you know he is not legally married to the woman he is living with. I wonder how some single ladies think these days. Is only God that can deliver all of you who have refused to let go of married men. I can't believe some ladies can actually stand as a side chick and have 3 kids for a man that has not pay your dowry. Odiegwu. May God have mercy on us......

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  3. One word for NAIVE, this man now thinks as he owns you because you allowed him to do whatever he likes to do on you. We should stop abiding their dreams,life on their so called men. Be educated, start searching the way to your dreams and believe to yourself. Dear writer,move on with your life before he takes your life.

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  4. One word for NAIVE, this man now thinks as he owns you because you allowed him to do whatever he likes to do on you. We should stop abiding their dreams,life on their so called men. Be educated, start searching the way to your dreams and believe to yourself. Dear writer,move on with your life before he takes your life.

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