Wednesday, January 20, 2016

His Pastor Disapproved of our Relationship!

Good afternoon woman of God, firstly, on behalf of all the youths and old alike, thank you so much for all you do. You are a blessing. Mum, I am confused. I don't know what to think or do. I am in so much pain . I have been in courtship with this man for two years now. We loved each other very much and he assured me that we would get married as God had confirmed to him that I was his wife to be.
He is currently holding some sort of leadership position of program co-ordinator in his church. He was supposed to meet my family next month but he decided to first consult and tell his pastor about our courtship. Upon finding out, the Pastor has disapproved the relationship reason being that I am not a church member. That they should only marry church members.
And that the Pastor has somebody already in mind for him. This gentleman has further told me that He cannot disobey or disappoint his Spiritual Father and has called off the relationship and suggested that we can only be friends. I tried to negotiate with him that he convinces his pastor but he has refused. It's so painful. I know we are to obey our spiritual fathers, but is this right?


I am trying my possible best to contain the pains and anger at the ignorance of you and your partner who have been terribly misled in the name of spiritual father.
It is both pathetic and abysmal to imagine that you and your partner could not kneel down and seek the face of God but have resorted to spiritual father who is an ordinary human being with flesh and blood to decide your marital future.
Well I don't want to say much more than to encourage you to please go and thank God for saving you from a baby brother because his attitude simply shows that he has no understanding of God's word and is not spiritually prepared for marriage.
There is no place in the Bible where God permitted anybody to decide who they get married to. A pastor's duty is that of a counsellor and not to match make partners and to judge others because they are not members of the particular denomination where the man worships.
I understand that some of you have surrendered your life to your pastor and as such have no idea what the word of God said concerning some sensitive issues of life but I will not be deterred from preaching the truth.
Since his pastor has decided, bid him goodbye and trust God for your own husband, a man who has a personal relationship with God and not with a man of God. A man who knows who will be of great help to him and not the one that the church arranges for him. A man who understands the difference between being in church and being in Christ Jesus. A man who is a genuine Christian and not the one that is a coordinator but have no idea what Christianity entails.
It's well with you indeed because this is rather ridiculous and sincerely hopeless.

6 comments:

  1. Dear,good riddance to bad rubbish. Is that the 'robot' you want to submit your whole life and future to? Why is it that when we are supposed to be holding thanksgiving parties and thanking God,we are busy holding pity parties?
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  2. I still don't understand why pastors and prophets keep destroying the lives of innocent young Black Africans. Well, young lady you've tried your best to be in courtship with him but since he has vowed not to disobey his spiritual father, then maybe you let him be, in as much as it's not going to be easy. I wonder how he is going to love the person his spiritual father has in mind for him or is the love going to be automatic just because the spiritual father is involved? I really think many pastors are out to destroy lives rather than mend lives. Don't force yourself on someone that doesn't value you and the sacrifices you've made. That's a selfish pastor right there, only seeking for ways to populate his church. God bless.

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  3. Sister, rejoice for God has done for u another miracle, Jst like Mummy said, Jst imagine what would have happened if u had gotten into a home control by a So called pastor, that may be ur way to hell. Remember what happens if u fail in marriage... if truly u serve the God that answers before we call Him your own man will not exceed this feb 2016..... Jst trust the lord He has never failed me and he won't fail u.

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  4. My dear girl!! What will be will be!! We pray you God every day that he should prevent us from all harm. He just did by not allowing this marriage to hold! The pastor just wants to maintain population of tithes,offerings and followership in his church and he sees you as a threat in his ministry! ! Hahahaha. Rubbish! !!

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  5. My dear girl!! What will be will be!! We pray you God every day that he should prevent us from all harm. He just did by not allowing this marriage to hold! The pastor just wants to maintain population of tithes,offerings and followership in his church and he sees you as a threat in his ministry! ! Hahahaha. Rubbish! !!

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  6. Let him wait for the pastor to choose his wife for him. This is nonsense!

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