Sunday, January 24, 2016

Most of my Relationships Don't Last!

Good evening ma. Kudos for a job well done. I'm in my mid 20s, and a final-year student in one of the Federal institutions. My issue is that I find it hard to get a serious date/relationship.
Most of the girls I encounter just want to get laid with me and nothing more, they prefer a 'no-strings-attached' kind of relationship. In every sense of sincerity, I'm quite charming and intelligent. This gets most ladies attracted to me, but they don't last with me. It's either they need me to be as a sexual partner or as a study mate. I'm not comfortable with this. I need a serious and faithful relationship... a girl that will love me for who I am. Please what can I do?

The funny question that popped up in my mind was "who are you? " Most times this is one of the questions many fail to reveal with their attitude, vision, personality and passion. They go out looking for a relationship but never tell who they are and what they want.
As children our identity was our parents and family, as adolescents our identity was books and movies or the likes depending on your environment and as adults, our identity is in the thoughts that consumes our mind the most, the friends that surrounds us, our attitude to life and our relationship with others.
You need to find out who you really are and who God want you to be so that when you meet a lady who doesn't share your vision and thoughts and personality traits, you simply move on and bid her goodbye.
Everyone has a need and a purpose for a relationship, for some it's sex, for some it's money, for some it's books and for some it's building a future that will stand the test of time.
When you discover who you are in God and you have discovered your path in life, then you can start making friends with those who have something similar or something closer to what you share in life. Spend more time with those who appreciate your vision and passion in life and don't give in to those who want to distract you or reduce you to a sex object.
With time you will find the kind of lady who is willing to give her all to see you succeed and be happy, that's exactly the kind of lady you should present to the world as your wife.. Lol
Of course you must do this prayerfully and with great patience because a pretty girl doesn't mean a pretty wife and for the fact that a lady professes her love for you doesn't necessarily mean that she have an idea of who you are and what you need to succeed in life so look well and prayerfully ask God to guide your footsteps to your destiny helper in your journey.
So if you don't mind, get a personal journal and answer my question, you may need it sometime in your journey.


  1. Interesting post! I want to say that you mustn't be sad! I'd like to add that all people need a relationship! it made me sure! Read it too, I know that you will find in it smth you are looking for! Good luck!

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