Friday, February 12, 2016

I'm Fed up, Please Help Me!

Good pm aunty. Please take heart for the demise of your loving father, may his gentle soul rest in the bosom of the Lord.
My name is N and am dating a guy since last year June.. He is spiritually strong and so close to God but physically he is immature.. He feels he is too good for me that over every little issue we have, he will threaten to take a decision (that's quitting). We quarrelled last year and I told him that he was too pompous, that he was full of pride, he wasn't happy one bit about it,few days later,he invited me over to iron things out,I went not knowing he hid a knife. He nearly stabbed me,I was so scared and apologized.
When we reconciled, he said I wanted to push him back to his old ways of life and promised by God's grace such incident wouldn't repeat itself again. He is so insensitive to my feelings, always makes jest of my height in the presence of his friends. Since am working, he feels that am independent and that it is my responsibility to take care of his visitors without giving me a dime...
At present he does not do anything and I don't ask him for money, but there are many ways a man shows that he loves and cares for his woman. He hardly calls unless I first call him, and he doesn't see those things as anything. Am tired of complaining, lest he sees me as a nagging woman...
I endured and swallowed a lot if things and then ended up feeling sad. He is soo immature. If we have any little issue, he can stay for more than three weeks without calling. Yes I have flaws but he isn't helping at all...
Am fed up with the whole thing... Please ma'am, help me out, What do I do? I need your advice because am losing it... Thanks and God's blessing upon you....


Hmmmmmmm, I'm yet to recover from the shocking revelation that he nearly stabbed you. May God have mercy on you and on him in Jesus name Amen. 
You see when unforgiveness mixes with pride and jealousy, death maybe lurking around the corner. 
Being spiritually strong doesn't mean that the individual has a spiritual understanding of what God desires of him or her. I feel that what some individuals engage in is religious fanatics and have no understanding of what it means to have a personal relationship with God and to be the light of the world where there is darkness. 
Your relationship seems to me like what you forced yourself into and like you said that he always feel that he's too good for you. He doesn't make any efforts to strengthen the relationship. 
There is no need for him to care for you or your needs, he doesn't seem to have anything positive to add to your life except to explore and exploit whatever you have and I'm tempted to ask if you can cope with all these? 
You take care of his friends and his needs, but when you have a misunderstanding with him, he will wait for three weeks before considering talking about it, that's emotionally disturbing and like you rightly said, he's actually emotionally immature but then why are you still in the relationship when you have seen all those flaws especially the knife? 
Well I don't even know what to tell you, yes we have our dark sides but if he's genuinely willing to grow beyond his weaknesses, he won't treat you like a slave and make mockery of you in the presence of his friends? Haba! Who does that and still claim to love you? 
If you are willing to continue enduring and swallowing a lot of things because you want to be tagged as being in a relationship, then good luck but I am praying for you already, may God deliver you from the hands of oppressive and distributive individuals. Hmmmmmmm

10 comments:

  1. I didn't have the patience to read to the end. You started with, " he is very spiritual and God fearing." please and please, where is the God in a man who raised a knife to kill you? Or physically and emotionally abuses you?
    Hmmm the Lord is showing you the signs, and you choose to ignore it. Better leave that relationship

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  2. I didn't have the patience to read to the end. You started with, " he is very spiritual and God fearing." please and please, where is the God in a man who raised a knife to kill you? Or physically and emotionally abuses you?
    Hmmm the Lord is showing you the signs, and you choose to ignore it. Better leave that relationship

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  3. My Dear run,it is better to alone and lonely than to be lonely wit sombdy,he has nothing absolutely to offer u,he's just using and exploiting and he's not Godily atall

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  4. Pls I will advice u as a fellow man,kindly run now,no long talk if love yourself

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  5. Pls I will advice u as a fellow man,kindly run now,no long talk if love yourself

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  6. My dear,the fact is that the guy does not truely love you and he may have someone else,i believe if a man is not giving you he's probably giving someone else,if he takes you as that special one he ought to appreciate everything about you both your height and everything, may God deliver deliver the infatuation that is still holding you in that relation Becos'love is loving someone that loves you,i wish you good luck

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  7. My dear,the fact is that the guy does not truely love you and he may have someone else,i believe if a man is not giving you he's probably giving someone else,if he takes you as that special one he ought to appreciate everything about you both your height and everything, may God deliver deliver the infatuation that is still holding you in that relation Becos'love is loving someone that loves you,i wish you good luck

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  8. Get out of that relationship now. please don't hesitate. do it now. it is well with your soul.

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  9. I will advice u tell him, u guys should take a break,since u can endure his non calling for 3 weeks u can heal the hrtbreak within 3 weeks,if u continue with that relationship and leads to marriage I bet u that u will. Endure it for the rest of ur live,love urslef. And pray to God to give u ur own hubby,this guyz doesn't love u,just. Want to exploit u and that how u will take responsibilities of him and his childen when u get married to him.Life is too short to live in sorrow and bitterness,just tell him u need a break. and don't tell him reason u want a break, if u need a friend to talk to u can email me,

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  10. If you love yourself, kindly leave that amateur and insensitive character.

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