Tuesday, March 8, 2016

He's Uncomfortable with my Mode of Dressing!

Thank you so much for building relationships and giving answers to the many questions in the our minds. I learn everyday from you. God bless you more. Since we met and started this relationship he has never complained about my mode of dressing. Even when I asked him (because of his church) he will say he has no problem with that.
Now he wanted to take a step about marriage he wanted me to change my mode of dressing and started to preach to me about no earrings, no trouser, no makeup, no weavon/attachments, no nail polish(I don't polish my nails)to be honest I tried to that but I found It very hard.
Please ma, I want you and this beautiful family (AVLites) to give me a word on marrying from a different tribe and denomination(church).
God bless you all!


It is healthier and emotionally stable for you to marry your friend and a man who appreciates your personality and your way of life than to marry a man whose intention is to TRANSFORM your appearance to that of his church.
It may seem as a harmless thing to do but with time you may end up struggling trying to adjust to the "perfect dressing" of his church.
He seemed to me like a man who is church minded and not one who desires to be like Christ. He's more worried about what people will say about you than he is about who you are.
A man who truly appreciates the treasure he has been blessed with will not preach his church's dress code to you but will preach Christ and modesty to you.
If he wish to marry a lady who dresses in the manner that he preached to you, it's a lot easier for him to go to his fold and marry from there than to force another lady into becoming a shadow of her personality to impress a man.
If you can't cope with that and you can't pay such sacrifice to be with him, kindly let him know and turn down the offer to avoid struggling with him after you must have gotten married to him.
The language of love is happiness, it doesn't matter what tribe or tongue, as long as both partners are happy, everything will blend together. All you need to do is pay attention to details, learn about their cultures and traditions, understand their language and learn to communicate effectively with them.
You don't need to be friends with all, courtesy, respect, patience, understanding and tolerance is all you need to relate with them.
Your spiritual compatibility is more important and sensitive than any other thing, please do not compromise on your convictions or try to get married to a man and then struggle to meet up with their dressing pattern.

5 comments:

  1. My Bible told me "Let everything be done decently and moderately"(1Cor.14vs40).Not about you must not wear this or that...,becareful of anyone at all that will want you to practice religion instead of Bible.Thanks.

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  2. Hehheb4n . dis kinf tin happened to me. Its not easy. D man in question turned out to be a chuch goer not Born again. They re mean and wicked . eventually e marriage collapse. Anytru man dat loves u wil marry u d way u are and accepts u. Its jesus dat changes one not man. Besides notin is wrong with makeup and wat u mentioned. They re paractising s3lf righteousness. Dey ev3n go nehind d church dey do premarital sex. My sis run for ur life. If he can accept u dat way he is not ur man. Cikena! Am a witness

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  3. Hehheb4n . dis kinf tin happened to me. Its not easy. D man in question turned out to be a chuch goer not Born again. They re mean and wicked . eventually e marriage collapse. Anytru man dat loves u wil marry u d way u are and accepts u. Its jesus dat changes one not man. Besides notin is wrong with makeup and wat u mentioned. They re paractising s3lf righteousness. Dey ev3n go nehind d church dey do premarital sex. My sis run for ur life. If he can accept u dat way he is not ur man. Cikena! Am a witness

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