Wednesday, March 9, 2016

How Do I Help Him Out?

Well done ma, please I need your urgent advice. I got married four months ago and got pregnant a month after but lost the pregnancy when it was about entering two months due to fibroid. I had to have an emergency surgery last month. My problem now is that the doctor advised that I should not meet with my husband for the next six months

But my husband has started disturbing me for sex. Even when I tried to help him to ejaculate in the bathroom some days back I almost injured myself and had to nurse body pain four days. Please ma, how can I help him out because we are young couples. He has been so worried since he heard about the six months thinking of how to cope. I love him and I don't want him to starve. Please help me ma I'm waiting for your reply. Thank you.

N.B: Somebody advised sucking but my husband does not like it and I still have some wounds that I'm dressing around the stitches.


This is the best time for both of you to explore none penetrative sexual intimacy. Suckling the nipples, kissing, body massage, caressing, whispering words of love and cuddling with each other. 
You don't necessarily need to suck his penis if he's not comfortable with that, you can go for playing with his scrotum and caressing his penis and paying more attention to his glans that's the head of his penis, the area after the circumcised region. 
When you massage the penis, you can gently caress them in a rotational motion. You may also consider holding your two breast together and allowing him to rub his penis inside the two breast (this will be lovely if you have a sizable breast and please endeavour to apply lubricants or massaging oil on your breast before that).
You can go for an exotic massage and spend quality time playing with each other naked just so that his eyes will he be on the prize.
Above all else, let this be a time to rediscover your erogenous zones and the time for him to bond more with you. 
It may not be comfortable in the beginning but with time he will enjoy the non penetrative sexual intimacy with you. 
Let him know that you are not doing this to punish him but to help you heal and avoid destroying your cervix and your abdomen. 

3 comments:

  1. Biko today is 3months I had d fibroid surgery and I have been sleeping with my husband since the 3rd week though he was very careful and minded his position (through the back).
    I have just been confirmed today at d hospital to go ahead and get pregnant if i want to (after 3 months of safe sex). How can u not have sex for 6months???!!!
    Unless u had a complication.
    I am very strong and can do everything including the sit up exercise, though not too much.
    Talk to another gynecologist.

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  2. Kai sorry pray hard bc if he is libido is high thereis tendency of him going out to ve affair unless he has d fear of God in him dats d bitter truth

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  3. Kai sorry pray hard bc if he is libido is high thereis tendency of him going out to ve affair unless he has d fear of God in him dats d bitter truth

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