Wednesday, March 30, 2016

My Brother-in-law Insulted Me!

I already know I would never love my in-laws except the father. (Read the wife's mail here)He was the only human there... Even my wife never made any efforts to make the brothers see me as her husband... She acted like she was doing me a favour marrying me. The brother insulted me. Only her younger sister and dad that accepted me with their hearts.
I vowed to marry this girl no longer because of love or any of those fairy tale crap but cos I wanted to prove to the brother he could not stop me. I have prayed to God to change me and my heart, but it just can't happen. My woman now is so scared of losing the marriage cos I don't feel it's me.
I do my part, pray with her, provide money, am doing okay, take care of the house and kids, make love to her when she wants... But deep down I hate this family. I feel am deceiving myself. I buy things for this woman, my in-law and later give it to widows in church. I avoid her..
Her brother is in pains now and penury... He is seriously struggling, my woman asked me to help him, I keep postponing it... Not cos I can't but I just can't bring myself to forget how he told me, his sister picked a stupid fool, wretched guy... I feel like telling my wife plainly, and then even if she wants divorce no problems... I won't worry my head. She made me this monster... Told me my too much love was making her look for a real man. Hehe he...
I feel nothing now for her or her mom and brother. The dad is a good man and I will take care of him even if she leaves now. I guess am a real man now... Anyways... Long story... Until you experience wicked mother-in-law, na story you go dey talk. Jisike(keep it up) Madam Amara... I don't want advice... Thank God it's pay before service... Lol


Please forgive me for deciding to respond to your comment on the blog even when you instructed that you don't want advice. 
If not that I am lead by the Holy spirit to talk to you, trust me, I won't be doing this at all. 
I know that many may attack you and many may condemn you for taking this decision but when I read your mail, I knew that you were speaking out of deep pains and groaning of your heart. 
This was the deepest part of you that was crushed when you went to your in-law's family to marry your wife. I won't pretend that I don't feel your pains because no matter their perception, their opinions and their reservations about your intentions, it was really so so painful for anyone to insult your personality by calling you a stupid fool and a wretched guy. 
It was simply unnecessary and sincerely so harsh a word to use on a man whose crime was love. 
I may not tell exactly how you feel but I feel your pains and on behalf of her mother, brother and other siblings, please consider forgiveness. 
As long as you live on earth, desire to prosper much more in life and exceed beyond expectations, please consider forgiveness. You may say that it's not possible to forget but it is possible to forgive them in your heart and release them from your heart. 
Your wife has sacrificed her body to bring your children, she sacrificed her life to nurture your children and support you, and even in her weaknesses, she hasn't betrayed your love for her. She is the greatest gift God has blessed you with in her family and though her mother and brother may have insulted your personality, but do not be in a haste to forget that you will not prosper if your heart is filled with grudges. 
Please consider forgiveness, your heart is too heavy that I'm afraid that you may crash down someday. It is not in your place to reward them for all they said and did to you, give it up to God and set them free. 
Surrender your heart to the Holy spirit and decide today to set them free for all they did. I know that you are not worried about what you spent on her head, but on how they humiliated your personality and crushed your ego which made you to fight to acquire her and then punish them for all they said. 
I believe that you are a loving and God fearing man and since you have decided within your heart to seek the face of God and plead for him to transform your heart, it will only be possible when you forgive them all. 
You will experience divine peace and love in your heart and you will enjoy your marriage even more than you are currently doing today. There is no need to make mockery of the downfall of your brother-in-law because he's now part of your family by the virtue of marriage, please forgive him and assist him in anyway you can. Let go of his insults, remember that it takes the strong in mind to forgive and the weak to bear grudges. 
I hope that you will consider this as a passionate appeal from the heart of God to you to forgive your in-law irrespective of their shortcomings. You cannot be enemies with the family of your wife and prosper in your enterprise. You have dwelt in this mountain for four years, please it's time to let go and embrace God's love and grace for your wife and family. 
Please if you need to talk to me, I would be glad to hear from you. Thank you.

4 comments:

  1. U had the option to just walk away b4 u married her and had kids with her and now there there are many more lifes involved u want to put ur children tru the trauma of watching ur marriage fall apart
    Have u considered the pain it will put them tru wat of the father in law and sister in law u claim to love
    To know wat true love means u must understand forgiveness
    U didn't marry he cuz u loved her u married that woman to prove her brother wrong and after that wat next
    Throw her away and prove them right
    God has presented u a wonderful gift in a wife it is left for u to see her for wat she is
    Despite wat her family said she stayed by urside believing in d man that u r and could be the beat u can do is show her is was not wrong that despite wat they said u r a rare gem in a man and u love her
    Love and forgiveness they go hand in hand if we don't forget the fight of yesterday who will we play with today
    U might think dat divorce will deal with ur pain IT WON'T it will not disappear till it destroys the man dat u could be
    Chose forgiveness let ur heart find peace so that ur family can be at peace and u can be at peace with God too

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  2. U had the option to just walk away b4 u married her and had kids with her and now there there are many more lifes involved u want to put ur children tru the trauma of watching ur marriage fall apart
    Have u considered the pain it will put them tru wat of the father in law and sister in law u claim to love
    To know wat true love means u must understand forgiveness
    U didn't marry he cuz u loved her u married that woman to prove her brother wrong and after that wat next
    Throw her away and prove them right
    God has presented u a wonderful gift in a wife it is left for u to see her for wat she is
    Despite wat her family said she stayed by urside believing in d man that u r and could be the beat u can do is show her is was not wrong that despite wat they said u r a rare gem in a man and u love her
    Love and forgiveness they go hand in hand if we don't forget the fight of yesterday who will we play with today
    U might think dat divorce will deal with ur pain IT WON'T it will not disappear till it destroys the man dat u could be
    Chose forgiveness let ur heart find peace so that ur family can be at peace and u can be at peace with God too

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  3. My Dear, Please forgive them because of the love God shower on you. Think of it, they actually saw a poor and wretched man with love and make mockery of you. But through that God showed you and them that he is still God of wonders, who does amazing things in an amazing way. I guess you are not a saint, but notwithstanding your shortcomings, God forgive you and single you out for blessing to prove to them that all things are possible with him(God). My dear, why not forgive like your father in heaven did to you and exalt you. Trust me, if you forgive, you will be free and experience more happiness and love than ever.
    Remember, some, Love is their greatest weakness. I believe your wife loves you, if she doesn't, she wont make a life time commitment with you knowing the cost.
    May the power in Christ resurrection set you free and bring happiness and peace in your home in Jesus name, Amen.

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  4. @Poster: Nna m,as a fellow man,am also getting angry here. Am still trying to imagine the events that went down and how it went down. Gosh! All because of what? Money. Ego. Kudi. How much kwanu? Ego ole? Is that all? What a lot of people(especially,women) do not realize,is that if there is one sin you MUST NEVER commit against a man,it is THE SIN OF DISRESPECT. Hmm...... But,you know what? Just let it go. They are not worth holding any grudge against them. On behalf of your Wife(who should know better,but was ignorant),your Brother-in-law and Mother-in-law,I apologize. Please,forgive. It will not be easy to let go,I know. But,just agree to let go and let God help you. You cannot do it on your own. You have already been trying. Let Him help you. Let Him heal you. Don't try to force it. It will not usually be instant. This is what you can do: Get audios,books,videos,devotionals,etc. by JOSEPH PRINCE and devote some time listening to them. The grudge will gradually dissipate. Let God heal you..... Keep us posted. Lol
    http://aminspired247.blogspot.in/2015/03/quick-downloads-101-over-500-free.html

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