Who Do I Settle For?

There is a guy I was recommended to for marriage through my mother's friend, he stays in the states though I have not seen him.. We got talking and we became fond of each other that we talk like every hour of the day.. Suddenly his attitude changed, he stopped the communication and told me he was no longer interested, I tried finding out what the issue was but he said nothing.
So I let him be though once in a while I called to check on him but he called recently and said he did what he did because he was testing me to know if I truly loved him and he will be coming back to Nigeria and when he comes back he will come and see my family for the first introduction..The annoying thing now is that he still doesn't keep in touch and now am beginning to lose interest because I got in touch with an old friend of mine who was very fond of me then and he seriously wants to settle down with me but the issue is that he is a sickler(SS) though am AA. I know the pain they go through during their crisis and I don't want to spend the rest of my life worrying about him and I even fear that he might not grow old with me if I make any commitment now..
Am confused now because I don't know if the first guy will come around or I should take the chance with the SS guy. I heard God have changed people's genotype from SS to AA and am willing to pray for God to change it..
Have never been in any serious relationship before and am 26 years, don't have any other person in my life and am scared of living my life alone. Thanks and God bless you..



To start with, you are very very single because you have not seen the recommended man who lives in the states and I guess his place of residence is what has given you the hope that his pranks were to be sure of your love for him.
You have already concluded in your heart that the second man will not live long because of his genotype but you forgot that it's only God that gives life and not anyone's opinions or perception.
Since your heart is on the first man, discuss with him and then find out when he'll be around so that you can see him and discuss the relationship with him. Please do not be deceived by his place of residence or marry him because he has money because your happiness is beyond those things but find out who he is and what his past has been like. Was he married or had any child?
Look well before you jump into the relationship with him but stop giving so much attention to him. If he's too busy to communicate with you, he's likely busy communicating with another lady.
If he's not forthcoming, then you may need to terminate the communication and consider another partner that you are comfortable with.