Sunday, April 17, 2016

Did I Marry the Wrong Person?

Good afternoon ma more grace to you ma, as I write to you my heart is heavy, am not feeling my marriage of three weeks ago Read> Is He like my Ex?. Could it be that I married the wrong person? My hubby prefers us using condom and he openly told me that was what he wanted and it's final, I don't know if he want babies because anytime I come up with that he gets angry and always say is God that gives baby.
I don't want to pressurise him because I believe it's still early, the worst of all is the way he embarrasses me in public with every little mistake. For me I don't know what to do ma, feel like am in hell and going out of the marriage please help me ma.


You may need to be patient with him and discuss with him so that you can know his plans and vision for the marriage. From his actions, it's possible that he's not interested in having babies now which was why he decided to use condom on you after wedding. I'm also wondering what both of you discussed during dating and courtship period because it's a bit strange that you are married to a man that you cannot communicate with and share your thoughts with. 
Since you decided to marry him, please make out time to consistently pray for him and be patient with him. Let this period be a time to understand his personality and vision in life and then readjust to suit his needs. You may have to endure some of his weaknesses and inadequacies so that you can cleave to him and meet his needs as your husband and leader. 
Like you noted it maybe too early for you to start complaining and wishing you never married him, this is the best time open your heart, eyes and ears to learn more about your partner and make the sacrifice for your marriage to stand the test of time. 
I'm hopeful that with patience, prayers and wisdom, you will have many reasons to smile and rejoice with your husband and enjoy the marriage of your youth.

6 comments:

  1. Most times...
    You read some stories and you just don't know what to write...
    There are no details in the story...
    There's nothing to hold onto...
    We don't know if there was any form of dating...
    We don't know whether you were forced onto him or otherwise...
    We don't know whether it was arranged..
    For a 3 weeks old marriage to turn this sour is abnormal...
    There's something not normal about your union..
    If you can...do well to reveal truthful details about this case...
    Your husbands sees you as a kid who has no say...
    And this is usually the case when a partner is forced onto another...
    Talk to your parents about this...
    If you can...talk to his parents too if he wouldn't listen to you..
    Also don't forget to pray about this...
    I look forward to reading the details of your union...

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  2. He may also be infected & doesn't want to infect his wife...

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  3. Just maybe, by the way marriage is a different ball game

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  4. Emmanuel you are right may be he is infected or something,just keep on praying becos ur marriage young to start having problems,it is well.

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