Faith is Dividing Us!

God evening, Madam. Please I have a very pressing issue I seriously want you to help me look at. I have known this girl for 3years and have never stopped admiring her. Recently, we got talking and I poured my heart out to her without hesitation. To God's glory, she obliged and we started dating. I told her right from the onset that what I want is a serious relationship that could lead to marriage in a matter of months.

In all honesty, this girl is all I ever desire. Even though we may have our differences sometimes, I feel so strongly that God specifically made her for me. I love her more than the sun loves to shine.

Recently, she started raising issues of Church. That was after I took her to see my Reverend Father. I am a Catholic while she attends Christ Embassy. She has insisted that I must allow her attend her Church once in a while. Initially, I thought it was an issue we could sort out until I started discovering that it isn't as trivial as it seem.

Yesterday, she made it so clear that I must be allowing her attend her church once in a month after our wedding. Then I asked her if someone questions her outside about the faith she practices, what would be her response, and she said she will reply that she is a member of Christ Embassy but a Catholic by marriage. Frankly, as a Public Communicator, I haven't heard something like that before.

Again, I feel so strongly that it won't be proper for couples to be attending different churches. I also feel a woman should be submissive enough to let go of her faith once she is cling to a man. Please I want your opinion on this. Thanks a million.


It's more lovely and beautiful for couples to have a place of worship where both of them get nourished and where their spiritual life is groomed and developed in addition to your family altar which is the most important of them all.
However, not everyone may be comfortable with some places of worship or be willing to let go of their place of worship for yours, so to avoid any future clash of interest and authority in marriage, it's wise to discuss extensively and agree with her on what both of you are comfortable with so that after wedding, both of you will continue with that.
If for example she's not comfortable with your place of worship, you may decide to accommodate her to attend her place of worship or both of you can work out another place of worship where you and your partner is comfortable and happy with.
If she cannot make amends and you cannot shift grounds for the sake of your church, then you may need to move on with your life and avoid the impending danger of trying to force her to worship where her spirit and soul isn't comfortable with.
Granted that the man is the spiritual authority of the home, you must also work with a partner who is willing to work with you and submit to your spiritual authority and you also need a partner who will not struggle with her own spiritual journey because of marriage. This is because her happiness and peace of mind in your marriage is dependent greatly on her personal relationship with God.
So I will encourage you not to ignore the obvious signs that you are experiencing in your relationship but see this as an opportunity to fine tune and agree on how both of you can serve God without struggling in your marriage.