Monday, April 11, 2016

How Do I Know if He's Cheating?

Good day Aunty Amara! You are really doing a great job. May God continue to strengthen and bless you. Please I need your advice and that of your fans. I wrote you sometime last year that I had two men asking for my hand in marriage and I was confused on which to choose... I later decided not to marry any of them. Few months later, I met my present boyfriend. He is such a great guy and a type of man any woman could wish for. He's also planning to come for introduction soon.
But there is something I noticed about him that I'm not really cool with. The way he stares seductively at other ladies whenever we go out on dates, baffles me. Most times, he gets carried away looking at them and this is kind of making me feel insecure. I don't really know if he's a cheat or will end up doing that after wedding. Have never caught him cheating. Although its a long distance relationship and I don't touch his phone,because I hate invading into other people's privacy. Please is there a way to find out if he's a cheat? I don't really want to make any mistake in marriage, since it's a lifetime thing. I also noticed he's kind of stingy, but I don't have an issue with that, since I can take care of my needs.

You are seeing the characteristics of a cheat, a womaniser and a flirt and you are still looking for signs? 
There's nothing wrong with him looking but there's something wrong with 'lookery'. This is where a partner is lost admiring another lady while he's with his or her partner. 
It's in all sincerity disrespectful, hurting and pathetic because it clearly shows that he doesn't even have any regards for the person he's hanging out with. 
To you, he's looking seductively at ladies, for him he's already making love with them and will only take time, money and opportunity for him to track her down and have sex with her. 
I have no idea what he's been preaching to you, but I feel that you shouldn't ignore the obvious signs, sit down with him and talk about it, let him know how you feel whenever he's with you and he's looking at other ladies, it's really a turn off and an indication that he's not emotionally contented with what he has or claimed to love. 
It's also a sign that he's not emotionally mature and committed to you and it's a huge sign that any little temptation will get him naked running to the lady for sex. 
I feel that you should find out what he's attracted to and why he embarrasses you whenever you go out on a date, it's better to be safe than sorry and wiser to be careful than to regret later.


  1. Aunty Amara, Thank you for the good work you have been doing on this page! I must appreciate you. I have not madde any comment on your post before or sent you a message but I just want to point out that a man stirring at another lady while with his girl friend, most times doesn't make him a flirt. Studies have even shown that 90 percent don't even remember the girl they were stirring at after then. Let us not jump into conclusion that he had made love to the girl already in his fantasy. Maybe she should pay him a visit or something.

  2. Nne it's time to take a look at the content of his phone.
    That is one of the ways to know...


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