Monday, May 9, 2016

Should I Challenge her on Social Media?

Aunty Amara, am confused right now. My husband chats a lady on WhatsApp every second even in midnights and when we are together. He always divert each time I tried to look or he notices I may see who she is, until I found out who she was.
I took her number from his phone and saw everything about her on Facebook. Anytime he is online, she is also online. I confronted him and he said he has nothing to do with her but cannot just stop chatting with her. That even though he chats with her, he also give me attention and he is free to chat with anybody with his phone and that I have nothing to worry about.
She flatters him in her private message. He sends her write ups to put in her profile messages and pictures which she does. They didn't know I see all these. It breaks my heart.
Now what do I do? I am not sure the girl knows he is married with three kids (We are married for eight years now). My question is do I send her a friend request on Facebook or not? In my mind let her at least know he is married. Because once she sees the request, she will like to know who I am. Please reply ASAP. Thanks!


Don't send her any friend request, you don't need to reduce yourself to a side chic. You are not fighting with her to win your husband, he is already your husband.
What you need to do is to sit your husband down and ask him for more clarifications or information about the lady, who she is, what she does for him, how they met and why she's taking so much of his time even in your matrimonial bed.
If he's not forthcoming and you know that you cannot cope with such interference anymore, kindly let him know that you cannot deal with such a harmless chat anymore and let him know that you will be involving his family and your family, including your pastor to help you understand what he's up to.
What's more painful is that he's so defending his evil as though it's his right to chat with any lady even on the bed with his wife. You have to be forthright and direct to the point, it's either you separate yourself from him with your children so that he and his chat mate will have a good time chatting or he give up chatting with her.
Sending her a friend request is simply out of it because she's never your friend. Don't take the battle to the streets because many will make mockery of you, take it to God and where he's not willing to respect your emotions and feelings, kindly involve your families so that he can decide who is better for him.

6 comments:

  1. What God has joined together let no one put asunder

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  2. Send her friend requests on Facebook, but don't fight her or say anything bad to her. If she accepts ur request, fine, just tell her u want to say hello to her as ur husband's friend. She has to knw ur husband is married. Bcos some of these cheating men don't tell d girls they are cheating with that they are married. While some of the girls will knw the men are married, but won't care. Don't mind ur hubby when u said nothing is BTW them, if truly that nothing is btw them, he won't be hiding things from u abt her. Some men and women ain't loyal dear

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  3. first go to ur war room, that is prayer room.. fight it in prayer.... the lord knoweth everytin dat is happening. dont comfront your husband nor the lady, first take it to the lord in prayer he will do somethin abt it. thanks

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  4. Take Aunty Amara's counsel and apply it.

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  5. Why are you confused? Why are you even asking for advice when you know you have already contacted the girl? You people will just be sending one sided stories asking for advice when you know what you will still do deep down in your heart. You know very well that your husband lied to this girl. You have also stated it in your story. So why do you want to challenge? Who challenge epp?

    Add her as a friend on Facebook and confront her so that the dirty laundry of your family can be washed in public. You want to challenge her on Social media? Go ahead! Just be ready to face the music as the Internet never forgets.

    You say you have been married with 3 kids for 8 years and yet your husband chose to disrespect you by chatting with a girl all the time? Even when you are together? Is he a child? Does he not know right from wrong? What kind of marriage do you guys even have?

    Women! Challenge your husband and leave the girl alone!

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