Monday, April 10, 2017

My Fiancé Aborted my Baby Without my Permission!

Good day Aunt Ami, may God Almighty bless all you have been doing to heal the broken hearts and restore marriages. This my second time of writing to you, am a die heart fan of your great ministry, please I need your advice on this issue. 
I know as a child of God I have sinned against Him by engaging in sex before marriage, may God forgive me for doing that. My problem is my fiance aborted my pregnancy without my concern after telling her am ready to bear the shame after having unprotected sex with her.
I told her my church will suspend me, my parents will be disappointed, friends and colleagues will laugh at me, but I will rather face the shame than face the wrath of God, still she went ahead to do her mind. Now she is crying, begging for forgiveness, that she did it to protect my image but ma am mad at her.
Where is the love she has been professing? Please should I forgive her or move on with my life? Mind you, she is engaged by me. Our parents are happy for us getting married soon.

What she did is really painful but in the midst of her errors she did demonstrate how much she loves you. 
I am not in anyway commending her for aborting your baby for any reason no matter how legitimate it felt for her, but she acted based on her feelings and thoughts about you. 
She didn't want to appear to be desperate to marry you by trapping you with a pregnancy, she didn't want to see her husband and pride being mocked by men and women who perhaps have done worse than having premarital sex, she didn't want her parents to disrespect or perhaps have a negative impression of your personality, and above all she did that maybe to protect you from the pressure of expecting a baby when both of you may not have been prepared for his/her arrival. 
I know that what she did was actually worse than her intentions, but I want to ask you, what do you think of her in general? Do you still love her irrespective of her actions and errors? Do you still see that helpmeet, companion, friend, playmate, confidant, and priceless bride in her? Do you still have that respect, gratitude, peace, joy, hope, and happiness that motivated you to propose marriage to her? 
She have sinned against God and humanity, but if God can forgive you of your decision to have sexual relationship with her, will you be willing to extend your forgiveness to her and accept her back without judging or condemning her? If your answer is yes, please go ahead and marry her, but if you feel that you cannot forgive her and accept her apology, please set her free and move on with your life. 
I know that you are pained, but this may also be a test of how much you really love her imperfect personality, and how much you are willing to go through for the sake of the one you love. 
I am so sorry for loss of your baby, you are a good man and I know that God will forgive you and your partner for this shortcoming. 

1 comment:

  1. WOW!!!
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    Hey guys my wife and I have been married for 15 years. For over five years I have been dealing with jealousy issues because of flirting and her having emotional type affairs with other men. I felt like my masculinity was in question and if I said the way she was acting bothered me, it seemed to make matters worse or I was accused of being controling. During this period I did state I wanted a divorce if the behavior was not going to end: texting men a night, leaving for the weekend without letting me know where she was going or not responding to messages. We do have a son and basically it's been him and I for the last year on the weekends. She disconnected completely from being a good wife and mother. In April she said she wanted a separation and I said no we need to get into marriage counseling. We did try that, but she was not very responsive and didn't give any effort. Afterward she was adamant about separation and divorce. I continued to say no and that we needed to save our family. She presented a separation agreement and I had to hire a lawyer. Because of the above behavior my lawyer suggested a private investigator. The investigator discovered my wife was having an affair with a close friend of the family who also is married with children. We know the extended families. I feel like I should tell this man's wife about what happened. This adultery has devastated me emotionally, I feel betrayed and I'm physically drained. I know my wife is passionate in terms of her sexuality, and I can't get the thought of them out of my head. It makes me question my own manhood, and I feel very inferior or that he must be a better lover or what ever. The problem is my wife pursued him. She would go to him and she lured him into this adultery. I felt this was coming for some time and could not stop it. She was not only lying to me but also to our son about what she was doing and where she was going. My family is important, my son loves her and as crazy as it sounds so do I. Can you respond with a course of action on how to proceed? I was still have a very huge place in my heart for her. so i searched for help online and I came across a website that suggested that Dr Ahmed can help solve marital problems, restore broken relationships and so on. So I felt I should give him a try. I contacted him and he told me what to do and i did it then he did a spell for me. 28 hours later, my wife came to me and apologized for the wrongs she did and promise never to do it again. Ever since then, everything has returned back to normal. I, my son and my wife are living together happily again.. All thanks to Dr Ahmed. as it is a place to resolve marriage/relationship issues, do you want to be sure if your spouse is being faithful to you or Do you want your Ex to come back to you Contact.: E-mail: or call/Whats-app: +2348160153829 save your crumbling home and change of grades its 100% safe. I suggest you contact him. He will not disappoint you.
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