Sunday, October 22, 2017

Should I Quit because of Her Place of Worship?

Good evening madam Amara,
please help me, am confused already.
I have been dating my girlfriend for three years now. When I first met her, she was attending Mountain of Fire Ministry.
In 2016 when she lost her her dad, she started attending Eckanker. I don't like it and I asked her to stop but she refused. I told her I will breakup the relationship, she said I should go ahead. We have had series of issues already concerning her new religion.
The problem now is that I love her so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with her.
I don't know what else to do anymore because I don't want her to attend Eckanker again..
Please advice me. 

This has to do with spiritual compatibility, and it is very important when it comes to choosing the partner you wish to spend the rest of your life with. 
You do not have the right to dictate where she must worship, all you have at your disposal is the negotiation skill to make her see things from your perspective. 
If after discussing with her and sharing your thoughts with her, she refuses to accept your suggestion, then you may ask her for her own point of view. 
If her perspective is not what you can accommodate, then the best option is to leave her and marry someone that you are comfortable with her place of worship. 
It will be unkind for you to make her feel like she doesn't have the freedom to choose where she wants to receive her spiritual food. 
So thread with wisdom, and hope that she will accept your suggestions, but if she insists on her place of worship, you can either sacrifice your own place of worship or move on with your life. 
In this case, loving her is not sufficient, both of you need to come to an agreement/compromise to avoid struggling after wedding.

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