tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2226993804954876299.post3007849192092949614..comments2024-03-16T21:37:43.184-04:00Comments on Amara Blessing Nwosu: Love, Life and Relationship Counseling Online: I Feel Hopeless...Confused!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01964092978400088086noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2226993804954876299.post-53482337896549292552015-08-13T15:17:05.378-04:002015-08-13T15:17:05.378-04:00I think there was too much expectation on this lad...I think there was too much expectation on this lady's part before arriving in the United States. May be the husband took for granted that this lady would understand the realities of life in the United States. As someone who came into the United States with her palm kernel cracked, I am surprised you feel frustrated in 10 months. Some ladies spend up to 10 years chasing the Green card but here you are waiting for the green card to drop under 10 and still griping. Your husband has a job but he lives in a location where there are no bus stops, most likely the suburb but you pine for the rough neighborhood 's with dozen bus stops, gun shots from gangs going off every minute and where home invasions are rife. You complain about being left alone while he is at work. Would you rather he stay home to keep you company? Who will provide for you and the baby when it arrives with no income coming in? I know in your current state you are emotional and anxious but please get a grip of yourself. Focus on things that would not cause you stress. Work and school will come, slow down and focus on the baby that is on the way. This too is a remarkable achievement more important than the school and work. In the end you will achieve your work and educational goals so do not be in a haste. Nubi Achebohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738540182885849734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2226993804954876299.post-61096825401870165472015-08-13T15:16:21.871-04:002015-08-13T15:16:21.871-04:00I think there was too much expectation on this lad...I think there was too much expectation on this lady's part before arriving in the United States. May be the husband took for granted that this lady would understand the realities of life in the United States. As someone who came into the United States with her palm kernel cracked, I am surprised you feel frustrated in 10 months. Some ladies spend up to 10 years chasing the Green card but here you are waiting for the green card to drop under 10 and still griping. Your husband has a job but he lives in a location where there are no bus stops, most likely the suburb but you pine for the rough neighborhood 's with dozen bus stops, gun shots from gangs going off every minute and where home invasions are rife. You complain about being left alone while he is at work. Would you rather he stay home to keep you company? Who will provide for you and the baby when it arrives with no income coming in? I know in your current state you are emotional and anxious but please get a grip of yourself. Focus on things that would not cause you stress. Work and school will come, slow down and focus on the baby that is on the way. This too is a remarkable achievement more important than the school and work. In the end you will achieve your work and educational goals so do not be in a haste. Nubi Achebohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01738540182885849734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2226993804954876299.post-54315108858833170482015-08-13T14:21:53.293-04:002015-08-13T14:21:53.293-04:00There's an impression I'll like you to cor...There's an impression I'll like you to correct...you need to forget about the treatment and advances you attract from outsiders...do not in any way compare them to what is happening in your home...its a silent marriage killer...every outsider appears to be an angel and i believe that was the case even before you moved into your husbands home...<br />Concerning your complaint....it so obvious that you worry too much over anything that doesn't go your way and that's not how it should be....In marriage...you think for two and not just yourself..you need to come to terms with that...marriage is a different platform....things must not span out exactly the way you want it....you need to take one step at a time....of course...you shouldn't expect to do certain things as a pregnant woman and ever expectant mother should know that once the baby arrives, you'll definitely be tied down for a while...it's a compulsory proccess every mother must pass through so just relax and see through the proccess...<br />Concerning your husband..it's good to hear that he works so hard...caters for the home....even takes you for shopping despite the fact that he doesn't really buy what you pick and above all....He doesn't cheat...count your blessings madam and see every reason to be grateful..These qualities are many womens prayer points every day....it could have been worse...These are still positive signs...you should be grateful...<br />You need to understand that he wouldn't know it all....He's not finding it easy too as the sole bread winner...you need to appreciate the little he does and encourage him with your words...it could go a long way in relieving him of stress..<br />You have no reason to shed tears...marriage is never a bed of roses....it has it's ups and downs and your approach to them is what makes or mars the union...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07277037241079415124noreply@blogger.com