Should I Marry a Divorced Man?

Goodmorning ma, you have always been known for your good advice, God reward you. Please hide my id..
Sometime in 2017,my pastor told me to pray that God should cancel whatever that keeps making Divorcees come my way and pray for my original man to locate me, i always pray about it till date but the men always coming my way till date are divorcees. I am 28yrs and i want a man who hasn't been married before... Sometimes my family will even want me to go on with them, but i know what i want from God, some say its my Destiny (I reject it) In as much as i am not in a hurry about Marriage cos i don't want to mistskes as an only daughter, pray for me for i know you have the grace that my original man will locate me soon that will love me and we will serve God together and grow old together too..i will come Back to Testify, God bless you woman of God.

Dear sender, the implication for desiring a man that has never been married before, is that you just have to keep waiting for him till he comes. There is nothing wrong about building one's focus on a particular goal till it is achieved. But sometimes it is good to evaluate some beliefs we have about issues of life, expecially if it persists. Albeit, have you asked yourself, "what if what I am waiting for never comes and it becomes too late to make do with alternatives?" In other words what if you keep waiting for an ideal single man, till you have aged sorely?

What if the single men that show up are not as ideal as you want a husband to be? Will you still prefer such one because they are single? The implication of that is that you may marry an unideal single and later in life be a divorcee yourself. These things happen. Sometimes it's not everything we want to have that we eventually get. Somehow the Maker brings what we want in another form and not the way we desired it. For example... If you ask me, I will tell you that I think the actual thing you want from God is a wonderful husband! Both good husbands and wives come in many versions. Some come as singles. Some come as widowers/widows. Some come as divorced people. Some come as singles with children.

Divorce is not a behavioural trait. It's an experience. The virtual thing is that divorcées are people who once married as singles. Some of them made mistakes and became divorcees. Some of them tried to keep their marriages, but circumstances beyond their control just happened and they had to let go. Things just happen. So whether the person is divorced, widowed, single, etc, God can make a great husband out of such a person. As there are suitable and unsuitable singles, that's how there are suitable and unsuitable divorcees. Now it is either you keep waiting for a single man to come since you are not in a hurry to marry as you said, or you start thinking twice about your prospects. Maybe the will of God for you may have a face other than the one you know.