Sunday, May 24, 2015

Her husband wants her to go outside for sex

Good evening madam. Thanks for your good works. And God bless you more. My husband had a stroke a very long time ago and we have not had sex for nine years. We’re both in our early 50s and he doesn’t think I should settle for a sexless life. 

We don’t want to split because we still love each other and our children are doing well. So my husband has suggested I need a sexual companion. He said I should just find sex where and when I could; only I should be discrete about it. I wasn’t really keen at first, but the more we talked through the emotional complications of my not being sexually fulfilled, the more the idea appealed to me.

 I just don’t want to hurt his feelings. Pls i need your advice


Dear Sender,
Honestly, I feel for you and it appears to me you are a good woman who cares about her home. You've not had sex with him and have not cheated on him for nine years;  It's praiseworthy. 

But I have to tell you this truth

The vow we always take before God in the presence of friends and relatives says "...for better or worse..." I believe we all hope for the better when we say that vow. But life is full of eventualities and that's what makes it life. It's only in times like this that true love is tested and proved. Your husband has shown that selfless love by asking you to go have sex with another man. It's now your turn to show that selfless love by deciding to live by the vows. A woman can cheat and go on with her home if the husband is not in the know. But for him to know that his wife has gone out to sleep with another man all because of his health condition? My dear, that man may end up dying before his time. Again, the very moment you listen to that voice, things will change in your home; your relationship with your husband will be as good as dead. He will begin to detest you and then, your children who you care about so much will suffer the breakup. Your husband may eventually see another woman who is willing to live with him for the next ten years without sex. 

You are not going out because you are attracted to another man; you just want sex. Why not introduce sex toys into it? There are women who don't have a boyfriend; they don't sleep with anyone, they constantly use sex toys. You can agree on that with your husband. 

Whatever you do my darling sister, please never forget this: That marriage you cherish so much will come to an end the very day your husband starts living with the thought that some other man is doing his job. Life will never be the same again.
 What if the man is testing your loyalty? Don't fall cheap to this. 

15 comments:

  1. Gbam..AuntyAmara have said it all (y)

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  2. Very correct aunty Amara. Dear Poster I feel your pain but pls stay with ur husband n don't cheat on him.God bless dear

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  3. The truth is, the man is not saying it from his heart because I can bet you his love will disappear if you start sleeping around. Open marriages don't really work especially when there is only one beneficiary! I suggest like aunty amara did, that you get a good dildo, vibrator and other sex toys and enjoy yopur self. I know its not easy but you both can find a way to make it work. I heard the story recently of a man born with no penis who has slept with at least 50 women! How he does is I don't know o! Use google! If you can't cope I suggest you end the marriage.

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  4. The truth is, the man is not saying it from his heart because I can bet you his love will disappear if you start sleeping around. Open marriages don't really work especially when there is only one beneficiary! I suggest like aunty amara did, that you get a good dildo, vibrator and other sex toys and enjoy yopur self. I know its not easy but you both can find a way to make it work. I heard the story recently of a man born with no penis who has slept with at least 50 women! How he does is I don't know o! Use google! If you can't cope I suggest you end the marriage.

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  5. Madam Amara just told u the truth.

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  6. God is your strength, poster..... Stay put....undaunted and see manifestation of God's blessings and healing power.

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  7. OlufunkemorenikeMay 25, 2015 at 1:05 AM

    Thats just the truth madam Amara just told you.God will help you.

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  8. The peace and bliss you're experiencing will disappear once you delve into extra marital affairs. No man who truly loves his spouse will stand the thought of it irrespective of the fact he suggested it. I pray the good Lord grants you divine wisdom on this. God bless you

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  9. I agree with you Amara,but sex toys tho...not sure if I quite agree. I honestly think that sex is very overrated,but hey,what does little me know about marital sex. I think if you have stayed all these years without sex and you are still well,they please continue...it won't kill you. #its all in the mind..#

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