Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Six Categories of Individuals you Shouldn't Consider for a Serious Relationship.

Love/relationship makes you extremely vulnerable, because in your bid to connect with your partner or build a relationship with your partner, you will definitely reveal the good, crazy and the weak aspect of your personality.
This is why you must be extremely careful when choosing who to love or date.

To help you avoid wasting your time, emotion and resources, here are the six categories of individuals you shouldn't consider for a serious relationship that may lead to marriage. 

 1. Religious Dummies. 

In your best interest, you may wish to avoid dating a religious dummy. These are the kind of people that their pastor makes decision for, from what to wear to how to use their brain. 
They are so attached to their religious obligations or leader that they find it difficult to make any decision without consulting them. 
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being devoted to a church/mosque or having a personal relationship with God, but when an individual is unable to make a personal decision without consulting or wholly depending on leaders, then there is a high tendency of being manipulated by those they confide in.

Tuesday, August 7, 2018

Help! What I Saw in His Phone Shattered my Heart.

I'm a young lady of 29. I got engaged last year and had my introduction in April this year. About three weeks ago, I had a dream about my fiancé still making contacts with his ex. I had it in mind to ask him but it kept escaping my mind. He was actually engaged to a lady he had dated for a couple of years. According to him, she kept calling off the relationship at any slightest provocation and couldn't stand her anymore.
About two days ago, I woke up to urinate around 1am. I don't really know what prompted me to decide to check his phone for the first time. We never go close to each other's phone except we want to show ourselves something. I just thought I should try using his year of birth as his PIN code. Surprisingly, it opened. I saw things I never imagined.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

A Strange Lady Wants to Destroy my Marriage!

Good day aunty Amara.. please I need your advice on an issue that has been bothering my mind.
I got married three years ago and ever since then it's been one problem or another-from infidelity to domestic abuse.
My husband can sleep with anything in skirt, he engages in sexchat, phone sex, physical sex with different ladies, masturbation..

Should I Dump my Girlfriend for not Being Good in Bed?

Good evening house and madam.
My ex broke up with me without any reason. 
I had no choice but to move on.
My problem now is my present girlfriend, she is beautiful, tall and has good shape but not good in bed and also not romantic at all.

Thursday, August 2, 2018

I Have Been in a Hellish Marriage for Eighteen Years; Advice Me!

Please ma help me just the way you have been helping others. I pray that God will surely bless you, Amen. 
I have been in one hell called marriage for eighteen years and I have endured all the pains because of my children and because I can not cater for them if l should leave the house.
The main problem now is that he has refused to allow me to do any business or anything at all that can give money,

Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Majority of my Suitors are Ugly; Help Me!

Hey! Good morning and happy new month. How are you and your family? Please, I need to share something with you and please be candid to me and put yourself in my shoes on what you will do if you are me.
I'm 31 years old, I keep having suitors but my problem is that I don't like appearance of most of my serious suitors, not that I hate them but I don't feel physically attracted to most of the serious suitors,

Is a Lady's Natural Endowment a Significant Consideration in Marriage?

Good evening madam, thank you for changing life over the years. Please help me with this. I met a girl in December last year in the village. We are separately staying out of our state. She is good character wise, as far as I know.
But I have one concern and that is her natural endowment.

How Do I Tell Her that She in my Wife?


Please madam, how are you? Hope you're okay. I have a little problem.
l am a guy who believes in righteousness and holiness, honesty and equally with the gift of dreaming.
I started my first relationship some years back around 2012, but as I was praying over that, God was not conceding to it. In fact, God was warning me seriously in my dreams to quit it. I began to ask God question why, he revealed to me three times in one night the reason, then I left. It was just six months relationship.
I began to pray again, now I asked God to bring His own choice through His normal revelation to me, and I saw a young lady which I know in my usual revelation. Then I began the process of confirming my prayers and uncountable times in my dreams, God said I should go.

Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Are my Actions Towards Him Appropriate?

Good evening ma, please I am lead to share this with you and also get a direction from you if am doing the right thing. I have been reading your post and love how you guide people right..
I am a lady of 26 years old, I have been in a relationship, for four years now, with a man of 30 years old. Though during our second year of relationship, he wanted to come and see my people but my family suggested he hold on first till when we get a job so that we can be fully be prepared for what we are going into..which he agreed.
Something happened last three months ago; when I went to visit him, I saw lady's properties in his house; which ever since we have been dating, I have never dropped my clothes or bags in his house not for anything.

How Do I Tell my Girlfriend that I Got Another Lady Pregnant?

I'm a guy of 30, I have this girl that I have dated for about a year and eight months now.... And from the very time we had intercourse,..we haven't used protection for once, that's because both us went for all the necessary test and it was all successful.
From then we trusted each other....but what baffled me was that since then, she haven't missed her period for once..... It got to a time I became worried over the situation,...

He Nearly Took my Life; I'm Terrified to go Back.

It all started in 2010 when a Pastor from The Lord's Chosen ministry came to me and said he wanted to marry me and my parent said no, but because my parent were not Chosen then, 
I was the only one that came out of Roman Catholic and joined Chosen because I was searching for God because I wanted to know more of Him.
So when this man came, he told me that he is the senior pastor in Malawi, and then I was about entering school of Nursing, and he told me not to worry that he will train me in school of Nursing in Malawi because they have the best nursing school according to him, so I believed him but I never told my parent because they were not Chosen members.

In Chosen, you only believe whatever is going on in your life, only Chosen members must know about it, and anyone who is not a Chosen is a sinner and they will go to hell. Then I hated my parents because of this church, that was why I never listened to them, and I made my passport without telling them.

This man said our traditional marriage will take place which I agreed, but on that day, only one person came which is a man of 23 years old, and my people said that traditional marriage is not done that way, and they said they wanted to see the man because the man never came, he only said there was a call for him to come down to Malawi so I believed him.

Tuesday, July 24, 2018

Hubby Betrayed Me, I Want a Divorce.

Good morning ma, please I need your advice mothers as the only option I have now is divorce but don't know how to go about it.
My marriage just completed three years last month. I was living in one of the African countries with my husband, and last year I decided to come to Nigeria for my youth service not knowing that will be the end of my once rosy and beautiful marriage.

Hubby Treats me like a Stranger!

Good day ma, you are really doing a wonderful job, may God continue to bless you.
My hubby is making my life miserable by maltreating me. My marriage is going to two years now and I have a nine-months-old-baby.
There is this lady in my church that recently joined us,

Friday, June 29, 2018

Should I Keep Up with my Boyfriend or Kick off with the New Guy?

Hello Aunt Amara
I can't seem to access your website that's why I'm in your inbox.
I'll be 28 in some months time and my boyfriend is 33; I love him yes and he says he loves me too, but communication between us is poor. I've complained about this several times but all I get is an apology and a promise to improve, but this promise is never fulfilled. 

Wednesday, June 27, 2018

I'm Dying of Depression!

Ma'am please I need your advice.... I am at my 32 years old now. In 2016, I got a new job which took me to a very popular city in Nigeria. I stayed with my aunt but after one month of my stay there, I was pleaded by my aunty to introduce me to a guy that was asking her to connect me to his friend that is in search if a wife.
At first I refused because I knew what I was looking for in a man, but later excepted to go on a date with them and I met the man I was introduced to and we both liked ourselves. The next day he asked me out just, the two of us, which I accepted and that was when he told me that he was once married and how badly the lady treated him, and the marriage lasted for just a year before the lady and her family returned her bride price....

I noticed how heartbroken he has been and I decided to love him and make him forget everything.... We talked about our past relationships and I told him I wasn't in any relationship at that time; and that was the honest truth..but he told me after his marriage broke-up that he only sleep with ladies and pay them off, and one lady among the runs girls they use to bring for him was the one he thinks is a nice person, then he asked her to stay with him so he can take care of her.
I asked him why didn't he want to marry her, and he said the way they met and they didn't agree to marry and they were not together anymore..... I accepted

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