Sunday, September 16, 2018

How Do I Prevent Him from Having Access to my Son?

Greetings to you ma, please I really need your advice. I met a guy last two years through his elder sister, the guy promised to marry me, and came to my house and paid some dues and got me pregnant. I had a male child, and he abandoned me and the baby. I have been the one taking care of my baby's upkeep with the help of my parents. 
He refused to complete the bride price and the wedding.
He told me that he's based in London but I just found out that

Saturday, September 15, 2018

Psychologically Unstable: How Do I Move on Without Him?

Aunty Amara, good morning. I'm a big fan of your page, please I need help.
I'm literally going crazy.
I met this guy on Facebook in 2015 ending... He finished from the secondary school I did JSS1-3. He's quite older than I am, like say I'm 21 now and he's 36. He's actually a nice, loving and caring guy. I initially didn't want to give my all In since it was just a Facebook friend. (I wasn't in the country as of then) and he called everyday and night.. That kind of persistency, I gave in about five months later... I fell madly in love with this guy despite the distance, he was on and serious for marriage and I was just 17+ and in medical school, he said he was going to wait,... 
Now the major problem, I'm Yoruba while he's Igbo. I'm Redeemed and he's Catholic... 

Heartbroken: Never Loved a Lady That Much.

Thanks much for your advise the other time...I really appreciate. 
You see, that lady I told you about eventually said YES and we both started a relationship afterwards as we progress, I did all I could to make her happy, care and lots more....but the relationship was one sided, I was the one doing everything to make it work but she wasn't sure of we both being together. She asked me to give her time for her to grow in love...which I agreed. Many a time, she will blow cold, I'II ask her if there was any problem or is there anything I did wrong or not doing right....she will reply me that she wasn't convinced yet and haven't gotten a revelation from God, as a result she is not yet opened.

Saturday, September 8, 2018

After Six years of Marriage, He Sent me Packing!

Good evening ma. I'm the lady that sent you a message on the 20th of Feb 2016 concerning my marriage( me believing God for the fruit of the womb). 
Ma, I've been told there's fibroid that needs to be removed, but my husband refused saying I have marine spirit because his family said so.

Sunday, September 2, 2018

Marriage: Never a Barrier to a Fulfilled Life

Marriage is a beautiful, in fact, the most beautiful experience after salvation of ones soul from eternal damnation. It’s beautiful when you meet someone who supports you, believes in you, and shares values with you, it feels absolutely great. The blessings of having a wonderful spouse in your life is endless and anyone who desires a happy marriage desires something glorious and wonderful.

However, there has been an increase in desperation, panic, fear, and anxiety just because we have to get married by all means. The society, especially Africa, isn’t helping issues at all.

Sometimes we see those subtle signs, warnings, negative vibes, and red flags indicating possible catastrophe in getting married to that person, but we let societal pressure and lust force us into it. Some have paused their career, ambition, dream, vision, and their life simply because they are not married or they don't have a man/woman to call their own. You sacrifice everything, lose your common sense,

Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Should I Marry the First Man or Give the Second Man a Chance?

Good day ma, my sincere apologies if this is not the right platform for this, I don't know how else to get to you. 
I have been in a relationship with a good man for two years and some months. Now he is asking for my hand in marriage but I am being stubborn about it, because he is based outside the country and I don't want to marry someone who is not in the country.

I'm Stigmatized Because of my Blood Genotype.

Please I need your advise.....
I am 29 years old, I have relationship issue. I'm being stigmatized because of my health status. I am a sickle cell warrior, anytime I disclose my health status to guys in my past relationships, they changed their attitude towards me which leads to break up. 

Sunday, August 26, 2018

Joblessness and Marriage

Good evening aunt Amara, how does one choose between happiness and their future..
I met this gentleman three years ago. God, he is such a God fearing man with everything I want and prayed for in a man.. I believe that he is a blessing from God.. We have been courting all these years, he quit his job and went full time in ministry

Broken: Three Years of Waiting and Investing in Him Wasted!

Good day Aunty Amara, please help me, I am broken. I met a guy three years ago, he already had a first degree, but was into another degree in law. I told him I could not wait because I was 29 years old then, but he pleaded with me and even sent people to me to plead on his behalf. 

Tuesday, August 21, 2018

How Do I Recover my Money from Him?

Good evening ma, please help a broken and disappointed soul. I type with tears.
I am 38 years old, I met him last year July online. He talked of marriage and I told him let us see each other first.
Both of us are from Anambra, also reside in Port Harcourt, same age. So, we met at Onitsha when I visited my brother's family, and we liked each other.
Next, he came to my brother's house and declared his intention, (my dad is late). We started planning of going to village to collect list. Aunty, I love this guy with everything in me. He told me he got job with Moscow company In Port Harcourt.

Sunday, August 19, 2018

I'm Heartbroken and Confused; Help Me!

Dear sister Amara, thanks for doing a great job, please I'll like to seek for your advice. 
There's this guy I dated back in 2013, we loved each other so much but we broke up because he's a military personnel and my parents felt they usually don't have time for their wives, so I got married in 2015 and left the abusive marriage in 2017.
Somehow fate brought us back with the military guy, and I was asking why he hasn't gotten married after our break-up but his excuse was that he hasn't gotten someone befitting to be called a wife.

Wednesday, August 8, 2018

Six Categories of Individuals you Shouldn't Consider for a Serious Relationship.

Love/relationship makes you extremely vulnerable, because in your bid to connect with your partner or build a relationship with your partner, you will definitely reveal the good, crazy and the weak aspect of your personality.
This is why you must be extremely careful when choosing who to love or date.

To help you avoid wasting your time, emotion and resources, here are the six categories of individuals you shouldn't consider for a serious relationship that may lead to marriage. 

 1. Religious Dummies. 

In your best interest, you may wish to avoid dating a religious dummy. These are the kind of people that their pastor makes decision for, from what to wear to how to use their brain. 
They are so attached to their religious obligations or leader that they find it difficult to make any decision without consulting them. 
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being devoted to a church/mosque or having a personal relationship with God, but when an individual is unable to make a personal decision without consulting or wholly depending on leaders, then there is a high tendency of being manipulated by those they confide in.

Sunday, August 5, 2018

A Strange Lady Wants to Destroy my Marriage!

Good day aunty Amara.. please I need your advice on an issue that has been bothering my mind.
I got married three years ago and ever since then it's been one problem or another-from infidelity to domestic abuse.
My husband can sleep with anything in skirt, he engages in sexchat, phone sex, physical sex with different ladies, masturbation..

Should I Dump my Girlfriend for not Being Good in Bed?

Good evening house and madam.
My ex broke up with me without any reason. 
I had no choice but to move on.
My problem now is my present girlfriend, she is beautiful, tall and has good shape but not good in bed and also not romantic at all.

Thursday, August 2, 2018

I Have Been in a Hellish Marriage for Eighteen Years; Advice Me!

Please ma help me just the way you have been helping others. I pray that God will surely bless you, Amen. 
I have been in one hell called marriage for eighteen years and I have endured all the pains because of my children and because I can not cater for them if l should leave the house.
The main problem now is that he has refused to allow me to do any business or anything at all that can give money,
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