Thursday, July 9, 2015

Caught him sleeping with my cousin

Aunt Amara please post this for me. 
Am a lady of 30 years and i got married last year with a child. 
Am just comfused am staying with my far cousin a girl of 16 years old.
She looks after my daughter while i go to work, i just found out that whenever i went out my husband comes home from his office without letting me know but because of the trust i have in him i never suspected him. 
I went out to get my BVN (Bank Verification Number) my husband came home and slept with that my cousin on my matrimonial bed. 
I really liked this girl and she volunteered to assist me when i put to bed so i decided to reward her by sending her back to school because she came from a poor home so she dropped her education because of finacial constraint. 
My sister that caught her in the act asked her, she accepted and felt remorsed and begged to stay back but i don't know how to confront my husband. 
Please advice me on what to do with the girl and my husband.

Dear sender,
I know this young girl may not have had evil intentions against you.
I feel that your husband must have infused fear in her should she open her mouth to say how she has been assisting not only you but your husband.
I know that you wish to reward her for her kind heart to you and her assistance when you needed it most.
Now here is what you must not fail to do, send her to a boarding school if you can afford the funds or better still, send her back home and sponsor her education while she's there.
You can provide all the help and support she need from the comfort of your home and also with ease.
When you must have sent her home or out of your house, then you will have to discuss this with your husband.
Do not go all out shouting and screaming, kindly inquire about what your sister told you and find out what his response would be like.
You married your husband and I want to believe that he is your friend and not a man who infuses fear in you.
Ask him what he was doing with your house help that you weren't sharing with him.
Use the opportunity to discuss about your sex life and your fears about his attitude to you and your daughter.
His response would to a large extent determine how best manage his sexual appetite while we hope that the house help doesn't get pregnant for him.
When it seems like we are on our lowest ebb, we seek help from him who made us.
The battle against infidelity is as old as humanity and it is a peculiar challenge that need wisdom, patience, Understanding and a great deal of sacrifices to overcome.
You have to be vigilant in the spirit to discern that the devil always exploit sex to destroy the home so do not just keep quiet but pray and pray and pray and pray for your husband and your home generally that the devil wouldn't destroy all your efforts and hard work with infidelity.
Forgive your husband so that you can have a clear access to the throne of grace and receive more strength and wisdom to help your husband overcome the devil.
It is well with you and I pray that you shall someday have reasons to celebrate your family.

8 comments:

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    dont forget to take the girl to the doctor for pregnancy check up because am sure your hubby did not use condom. it is sad that you are afraid to confront your husband about this evil deed. make sure you let the girls parent know what happened

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  2. I go with Aunty Amara. May God be with you at Poster

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  3. So sorry dear poster, your husband must be a DOG why will he engaged in such an act. Well send the girl back to her parents and for your husband question him about it but confirm the truth first before sending her packing. #Ella

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  4. Ask him what he's doing with the cousin (not house help) that she wasnt doing? Have we not learnt anything from cheating men? Men who want to cheat would cheat regardless of what his wife was doing or not doing. He is a cheat and even if she decides to commit her life to giving him sex 5times a day, he woukd still cheat.

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  5. Ask him what he's doing with the cousin (not house help) that she wasnt doing? Have we not learnt anything from cheating men? Men who want to cheat would cheat regardless of what his wife was doing or not doing. He is a cheat and even if she decides to commit her life to giving him sex 5times a day, he woukd still cheat.

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  6. Pls do as Aunty Amara suggested..that girl staying in your house is risky for your marriage..seriously wondering why you are scared of confronting your hubby over his bad deed,giving him room for more.

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  7. Is that not rape? Statutory rape? ‪#Quick‬Downloads™101

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  8. Pls how far with this woman, any progress?

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