Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Am Fed up with the Marriage!

Am married with three kids. Married for six years and been together with hubby for eleven years in total. My problem is that my hubby is a serial cheater but you would not know because he is very innocent and very jovial. He doesn't quit any of his affairs unless he gets a substitute. The worst is that he visits them in their various homes and spends weekend with them.
We are not too comfortable financially but the little he has he spends on the mistresses. Our wedding anniversary is this week and hubby has not said anything about it yet but instead went to stay with one of the mistresses for the weekend. Please ma, my question is this; do I go on with preparation about the anniversary or do I stop any plans I have for it as am very heartbroken at the moment because of Hubby's incessant affairs? I love him so much but he doesn't seem to feel the same way. He plays with the kids but ignores me. Nothing I do seems right to him. Ma am fed up with this marriage, please advice me on what to do.

How will you be happy celebrating your marriage when he visits his mistresses and sleeps around with them? (That is if you have genuine evidences). What your marriage needs is a solemn assembly and prayers for your husband and your children. There is no need trying to impress the society when your heart is bleeding and everyday you are worried about his commitment, his association with friends and his faithfulness to you.
I would rather suggest that you organise an environment where only you and your husband can have the opportunity to discuss and find out why he has decided to reduce you to an object of ridicule. Find out what is exactly going on and please present your facts to him so that he can explain himself better.
Where both of you cannot come to an agreement on how to manage his appetite for strange women in your marriage, I would suggest that both of you consider meeting with a counsellor or involve your families to intervene because when you cannot call your husband your own, your marriage is also no longer stable.
You must also insist on using protection during sexual intercourse to avoid contracting infections or diseases from him.
If you have never prayed for your husband and your marriage, this is the best time to hand over your husband to God and intercede on his behalf. As painful as his attitude maybe, he's not beyond God's redemptive power so do not relent in praying that God will deliver him from the spirit of infidelity and affection for strange women.

1 comment:

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