Monday, April 10, 2017

What's Going On in my Life?

Good evening Aunty Amara, as it is now I just need someone to talk to, someone who can give me answers to my questions, I feel very empty at the moment.
With tears rolling down my cheeks I don't even know where to start from, my heart is so heavy. I went through hard times to study through the university, I studied law because my parents at a point were not buoyant, so my boyfriend then was very supportive until it was discovered by the doctor that our genotype were not matching.
Let me go straight to the point, I have had series of issues in my relationship, don't know why I am 27 years old but I don't seem to understand what is going on in my life. Everything seems not to be working, I had already bleached my skin and I have spots all over my face which is so bad, my career right now is been put on hold because I have not been call to bar, reason being that I missed the last dinner then at the law school so I can't appear in court for now, that alone has demoralised me as I feel my dream has been cut short, my call has been shifted to July this year. Now that I am again set for marriage, every man is running away from me because of the spot on my face, everything seems not to be working for me, my friend just insulted me this evening in the heat of an argument and misunderstanding with her, that I am useless, that if she was me she will just drink rat poison and die, that I have bleached my skin I look like a witch, I am good for nothing, that I am a useless barrister, that that's why I don't have a boyfriend.
Aunty Amara I don't know what to do, my life is something else,  I feel rejected, I have lost my happiness for the past one year. I found out my passion has gone down, I don't think straight anymore.
Aunty Amara I am lost, I need to find myself, my life now even seem to me meaningless, this was never my plan for this life that at this age my career should be a thing of mockery and my relationship status zero, I am confused and don't know what to do, please I need advice.
Please Aunty Amara I need your advice please reply me fast please. Please what is going on in my life? Am I under a spell or something? Why is my life this way please?
Aunty Amara I need answers I know I might be paying for the consequences of bleaching my skin but what do I do? I need to settle down time is no longer by my side. 

Can a man run before God and get to his destination? Can the ignorant say that God cannot give her the best in all her endeavors? Is there really anything too hard for God to do? Is there anything that our desperation can fix in our life?
Beautiful lady, I want you to know that you are a priceless gift from God to humanity, I personally demanded for your unfiltered picture just to be sure I have a perfect description of your physical appearance. You are tall, elegant, full of life, with massive breast for both your husband and children, straight legs that leads to your paradise, and gorgeous eyes with a bright smile. I also saw the spots on your face but it is not as horrible as you portray in your mail. 
There is something that you must consciously do as an individual Irrespective of the circumstances surrounding your journey, you need to accept yourself, you need to believe in yourself, and you need to proclaim your convictions not your fears. 
Life is a sensitive journey, you can't achieve anything great with desperation, you shouldn't let anyone ruin your life with their rotten mouth. Please don't be so vulnerable that you no longer have a self evaluation of your personality. 
Nobody can defend your identity as much as you, and nobody can predict your future except God. 
Bleaching your skin is not a bad thing but here is the problem, your intention for beaching it. If your intention was to be acceptable by men, then you're already destroying your esteem. 
You cannot beg for acceptance and not prepare for insults and humiliation from men. If God created you elegant and beautiful, why do you want to allow mere humans to ruin your life with their rotten opinions. 
I feel so so pained not necessarily because you are not yet called to bar, but because you seem to have lost your identity and have decided to allow anything as little as sand to make you unstable emotionally, psychologically and mentally. 
Please embrace yourself, cherish yourself, appreciate your successes, and believe in yourself. Learn not to fix that which God alone can fix, God is the owner of every good thing. He's also the giver of every good thing in life, he's the one who can tell your future and not your friend. 
Hold on to God's Word not the opinion of men, seek his face in prayers, and pour out your heart to him, he's the only one who has the capacity and authority to change and transform any situation or circumstances of anyone in life. 
Though you may have missed your earlier call to bar, my joy and hope is that in three months time you will be celebrating your call to bar with your friends and family. 
That your destiny was delayed doesn't mean that it has been terminated. The living have hope, the dead have nothing on earth, so be hopeful, be positive, and challenge yourself to greatness. 
You are too beautiful to be defeated by the temporary circumstances of life. You're a champion, and God is preparing the best husband for your journey. You don't need to count your birthdays, count your blessings and allow God to favour you with your own husband. 
It is well with you, and you will shine like stars if only you will allow God to be the anchor of your journey.


  1. What a good advice. Amara,God bless you.

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