Sunday, November 8, 2015

I'm Scared of Being Unfaithful to Him!

Good evening Aunty Amara, please I need your help. I met this guy in 2010.
Ever since I met him he has not been working but I was working then but along the line I lost mine that was in 2013.
That same year I got pregnant for him out of wedlock. Now our baby will soon be 2 years old, we have been looking for job all round but none seems to come by, things are not going fine for us.
Recently I ran into one of my ex who is doing okay, he still wants us to date despite me having a child.
He promised to take care of us if I can continue dating him.
Aunty Amara am scared of being unfaithful to my baby father despite the fact that we are not yet married because we love each other so much but my baby and I needs to be taken care of.
Please what should I do? please help me am going crazy.

Sweet heart, the difference between your baby father and your ex is that one already has a baby through you while the other wants to have a taste of your honey pot while the offer last because he already knows that you are looking for money for your child. 
Let's assume that his intentions were genuine, I was thinking he would say something like I want to get married to you by the end of April next month but it seems to me like he just want to continue dating you while you get the money for your baby. 
Beautiful, please what's wrong with farming and beginning small irrespective of how little you make today. 
You love your partner and you have a baby for him, why do you think that your ex is better off than your partner? 
What will you do should your ex lose his own job and then you are already pregnant for him? 
Why not settle down with your partner and make your relationship work? 
Yes you are not married to him yet but from the tone of your mail, you can't deny the fact that he loves you which perhaps made you allow him to sleep with you. 
Though you may not have begun on a better footing, if you can unite with your partner and commit yourself to a business or skills or trade or vision that will yield a better prospect for you, don't you think that will be a better option than throwing all caution in the air when you can't tell of what will become of the future. 
I understand that your baby needs to be taking care of but so is your heart yearning for the man in whose arms you will find peace and fulfilment in life. 
Take your time and weigh your options because some things that we cherish maybe a deception of what we yearn for. 
In your decision making please consider your happiness first, the safety of your baby and your security as a lady. 
Pray about it and allow the Holy spirit to guide your heart.

4 comments:

  1. you will be wrongdoing by sleeping with your ex if he wants to help you he shouldn't have asked you to sleep.Do you think he could achieve what he probably promises you please be wise and run to God the one is.able to.give what your heart is expecting

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  2. Pls don't allow ur ex to deceive you cuz if thoroughly he wanted to help he wouldn't ask for anything in return, pit urself in ur baby father's shoe if you caught him doing same what will ur reaction be. Be wise before u lose it all

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  3. Pls don't allow ur ex to deceive you cuz if thoroughly he wanted to help he wouldn't ask for anything in return, pit urself in ur baby father's shoe if you caught him doing same what will ur reaction be. Be wise before u lose it all

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