Am 24 years old girl and a graduate. When I finished my NYSC I was cohabiting with my boyfriend then who proposed to marry me but later subjected me domestic violence which sometimes ended me in the hospital. After series of injuries on my body I summoned courage to call off the relationship.
I moved out of his house and rented accommodation for myself with the money I saved from my NYSC. I started searching for a job so I could foot my bills. But before I left his house I already made a vow to God that I will never involve my body in fornication or any other sin with my body.
Later on I got a job and I was relieved but after two days in office the boss was making advances at me which I refused. This continued for a week and It was becoming unbearable for me, one day he called me to his office and was questioning me why a big and beautiful girl like me will turn a rich man like him down, that it's an opportunity for me to be rich too while most girls are looking for such opportunity.
All said and done he gave me an ultimatum to either date him and stay or leave the job if I refused to. I told him I was okay with the second option that I was ready to quit the job, he was surprised and asked why I was so afraid of having sex, if I was a virgin and I answered him yes so that he could let me go.
He said okay I should quit my job then, so I actually quitted the job and was back home.
After two weeks he called me to come back and resume my work with no strings attached, I went anyway with some doubt but really he stopped chasing me. The relationship was just cordial as boss and employee.
One day his elder sister came to visit him in the office and saw me, she just liked me and said I was beautiful, she asked her brother my boss to please allow me to accompany her to the bank and he agreed and we went to the bank and she withdrew one million naira and handed it to me a complete stranger till we got to the office.
Since then we became friends, she asked some few questions about me on my behalf from my boss and he told her everything that happened between us that I was a virgin, later she invited me over to her house and church and asked me to marry her son who was in London.
She sent my number to him and he called, introduced himself then we got chatting every time later he asked me to marry him.
My problem now is we fixed our wedding on December 12th, he is coming to Nigeria on the 3rd and everybody in his camp believed am a virgin , I don't know how to tell them that I only said that just make my boss stop chasing me then.
What should I do because he will soon be in Nigeria for the marriage and after that he will realise am not a virgin, how do I tell my husband to be or his people? Thanks ma.
Dear,
You may withhold the truth about your virginity to your boss and his cousin but you can't keep this truth from the man who will take your hands in marriage for the rest of his life.
Thank God that he will be arriving today, after welcoming him to the country and having a great discussion with him about his trip, and work, please let him know the truth about your virginity and what made you to lie about your virginity.
It doesn't matter what happens at the end of the day but what matters is that you don't end up deceiving the very person you owe your sincerity and simplicity to.
Granted that you had good intentions for choosing to reply your boss in the manner and way that you did but should you get married to him without getting to know him and telling him the truth, then it will no longer be an accident or a mistake but a deliberate action well calculated to win the heart of your boss and his relatives.
It may seem difficult for you to do but please take this path of honour, if he's the one God has prepared for your destiny, nothing will make him to change his mind towards getting married to you.
Life is a test of our attitude and sometimes it can take any form or manner but to those who hold unto God, they can only be favoured at last.
JUST TELL HIM THE TRUTH WITH ALL THE STORIES INVOLVED. THE TRUTH ALONE CAN SET YOU FREE. U WILL BE MORE ASHAMED IF U ENTER THIS MARRIAGE WITH LIES. ASK HIM TO FORGIVE YOU FOR SAYING DIS LATE. I PRAY GOD'S MERCY WILL TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR CONFESSION
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