Thursday, January 7, 2016

Can't Sleep Cos I'm Hurting!


Thanks for your wonderful work and also to all the members. Am 26 years of age. Please I need advice, can't control my tears any longer. Have not been in a relationship before till this present one. I will cut it short, our relationship will be a year on February. He told me about a girl from Hausa, he has been dating for four years but the father of the girl denied their marriage because of their different religion. I love him so much, and am the type that does not double date no matter what.
On December he bought gift for me because I love him, no matter how small the gift was , I will appreciate it very well.
On 28th of December, He called me telling me that the Hausa girl will call me, that I should not pick her call, am also the type that does not like hurting people no matter what, then, I told him that I will call her that my conscience will never allow me to do bad thing to my fellow girl. He insisted I should not pick her call, I accepted.
Actually, he told me that he travelled to Ibadan, but on 2nd of this month, I saw him (he also saw me too), he said he came back that morning, I did not accept it but I ignored it. This morning, because I accused him of lying to me, I decided to say sorry to him because I don't like hurting people, he was not picking his calls, I even thought that it was because of what I said, I was not myself till I went to his house, in front of his house I saw a lady's slippers and another guy's shoes, I decided to go down step because I don't want to make a scene.
I called him on phone he did not pick and I decided to text him, telling him that am in front of his door, then he called me and told me to go that I will not like him when he get me in front of his door, actually he's not around. Due to I don't like anything that will disturb my conscience, I text him to at least pick my calls, he said I should cool down for him. In the evening,he called but I did not pick because I was very busy in the office. I later called him, he did not pick, then immediately one number called, I picked but the person did not talk. I called the number but the person did not pick, I noticed that he's with the person that called, probably , she wanted to know who he's calling.
I know this is no longer a short message but a huge one. I can't sleep because my heart is hurting right now, I even took one bottle of alcoholic wine to control my feeling now, but I can't , I feel like reversing myself again, I feel like I did not meet someone I really love like him all my life. Please and please , am pleading, i need advice, I can't even sleep. All my life I don't like anything that is disturbing me, that was why I don't keep relationship throughout my University. Please I need your your advice, please. Thanks.

Beautiful lady, why would you choose to destroy your life because of the attitude of another man?
Why would you want to make a mess of your destiny by hanging around a confused, deceptive and manipulative partner?
Why would you want to be a second option to a man who may not be interested in you?
Even if you feel that God doesn't love you, what about all the investments that your parents have made ever since you stepped into this universe? I know that you never expected this but will alcohol restore what you think you are losing? Will starving yourself of love make you win the man who is already in the arms of another?
Please do not tow the path of destruction and low self esteem, the universe needs you and someone somewhere is praying just to meet with you.
If you can, kindly let him be, bid him goodbye and encourage him to move on. The manner in which he talks to you, is disturbing and embarrassing for a beautiful lady like you and for the fact that he could conveniently tell you lies is a clear evidence that he has no respect for your emotions. Hanging around him won't make you happy rather it will drain you of the virtues and the beauty of your heart and leave you emotionally depressed and frustrated.
Please use this new year to disassociate yourself from anybody or anything that makes feel inferior, rejected, emotionally depressed and weak.
You are still beautiful and adorable even if you are not in a relationship with anyone.
Use this privilege to engage yourself in a training or vocational programme that will develop your skills and virtues that will make you stand out in life and provide a source of income and happiness to you.
Embrace God today and open your heart to him, he's the only one who loves without any reservation or conditions. Cry unto him and pour your heart to him, remember that he will never reject you but will wipe away your tears and heal your heart.
God is never late in fulfilling his promises for his children, instead of hanging out with a man who have no idea who you are, what your virtues are and where God is taking you to, I would suggest that you hold unto God who knows you much more than you can possibly imagine and is already at work to perfect your joy in him.
He will never disappoint you and he will never let you go back without comforting you with the very best.

7 comments:

  1. Run πŸƒ away from that he-goat. He does not deserve you.

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  2. God bless you Amara for your wise and inspiring advice. You said it all.

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  3. I feel sorry for u. Please runaway from that heartless and madman.

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  4. I feel sorry for u. Please runaway from that heartless and madman.

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  5. That guy doesnt deserve u in any way.. Pleaee make urself classy.. U are wonderfully nd beautifully made for a worthless man to take u for granted!.. Hold on to Ur maker.. He would def heal ur wounded heart nd make u whole again.. You will laugh last😊

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  6. That guy doesnt deserve u in any way.. Pleaee make urself classy.. U are wonderfully nd beautifully made for a worthless man to take u for granted!.. Hold on to Ur maker.. He would def heal ur wounded heart nd make u whole again.. You will laugh last😊

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  7. I was once like u,even weaker Than u emotionally.but belive me u need to pass tru this so u can be strong and able to contol ur emotion.its hard but it help..u stonger than u think.
    U know what to do.cry well if u need to then clean ur tears,put on ur cloth and hang out with friends..be happy.and nevr expect so much from anyone. Be incharge. If I can survice it u can too.i lost 20kg all in the name of hrtbrake when I won't eat but cry from morning till night expecting the idiot call.he came begging but then I had been heal and stronger.u are beautiful baby.

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