Friday, January 8, 2016

I'm Shocked! Should I Walk Away?

Hi Amara please I need advice from you. Can't sleep, my heart want to pop out my mouth.
I live in America with my husband so I came to Nigeria for Christmas, my husband told me his friend's girlfriend was coming to America. I said okay, am here in Nigeria over a month now, just yesterday my friend called me that they were suspecting that the girl in my house was my husband's girlfriend, I said how do you know? She said by their actions. Today I called him through WhatsApp and he picked and told me he was driving that when he gets home he will call me, and he dropped but I didn't cut the line, I start listening to his conversation, the girl was in his car and they were discussing me. How he loves her and they can have a baby together and nobody will know unless she opens her mouth to tell me, how his penis was working fine now. The girl said yes this morning it was very strong, my head froze.
All their conversation I was recording it, don't know where to start from? My friend told me to change my ticket and come back, I called the airline for me and my kids it's N360,000, I have nineteen days more to go.
I don't know how to confront them when I get there? Or I should just rent a new home and start my life all over with my kids? I even called my husband this evening him and the girl were talking nice to me on the phone, cheating is one, lying to me that she was his friend's girlfriend is another. I need serious advice on what to do, or should I just walk away?


Change the return date of your ticket and return back as soon as possible if you have the funds. Do not inform anyone about your movement and when you return home, evict the other lady out of your home and then you and your husband can listen together to his conversation with the other lady and decide whether he still want the marriage.
I would not suggest that you end it all even though the gravity of what he did warranted such but when you look at your children and consider how you first began and what you have endured to be where you are today, quitting won't be your first priority.
Nobody will blame you if you decide to end it all but please do seek the face of God, I know it's a difficult moment and a terrible times in your marriage but it's not beyond God's redemptive and restoration power. Your husband can still be rescued from the manipulations of the devil.
Go back to your home and please do not give the devil any chance to destroy all you have laboured for.
I am in pains even as I respond to your message but I am praying that God will give you the wisdom, grace and maturity to manage this precarious situation without destroying your home.

9 comments:

  1. Chai ooo.. Men ehn..dont even know what to say.. May God grant u d wisdom to act wisely..Hmmm... Who then can be trusted?.. *thinking*

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  2. I want you to know that only the test of fire 🔥 makes a fine steel, as beautiful as gold it has to pass through fire, as beautiful as salvation Christ gave HIS life for it, it not easy madam but if you endure till the end u will have reasons to say ""ABBA FATHER"". May GOD gives you the wisdom to achieve an expected end in JESUS name amen.

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  3. In addition to Mama's comment, ensure you multiply(save it in another device) the recorded conversation between your husband and the lady should you lost it on the cause.

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  4. And madam,from this nite till u get to see ur hubby,start serious prayer and vigil over both of them,tell God to distroy their plan,if u know her name report him to God,remide God his word.also tell God to give u the patient and wisdom to deal with the situation. She came to play she will defiantly Go back empty.
    You dare not leave ur marriage for any whore,a gold digger,u will rip the sow of ur labour.u won't work for any woman to over thrown u.u own ur husband,so don't do this now with a fight, do it with prayers. Ur childn is involve.think of thier father.

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  5. And madam,from this nite till u get to see ur hubby,start serious prayer and vigil over both of them,tell God to distroy their plan,if u know her name report him to God,remide God his word.also tell God to give u the patient and wisdom to deal with the situation. She came to play she will defiantly Go back empty.
    You dare not leave ur marriage for any whore,a gold digger,u will rip the sow of ur labour.u won't work for any woman to over thrown u.u own ur husband,so don't do this now with a fight, do it with prayers. Ur childn is involve.think of thier father.

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  6. Madam quit d girl sharply on ur arival do not approach d matter with aggression at all else u crash d whole thing pls use biblical words wit ur husband,tell him there's no achievement in that hole he is entering apart from kids which u already given him.seek o know d reason for his action & lovingly discourage him pls

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