I'm Pregnant and Helpless.

Good day ma, more grace for your good works. Am a 29 years old lady. I've been in several relationships that they were never serious to get married. The last one disappointed saying I won't be able to give birth cos I've milk/fluid coming out from my breast after two years of dating and I pleaded we go for a test to confirm we are both fit to conceive he refused and left. I then told myself the next date I would just try getting pregnant.
An ex boyfriend of mine who is my age mate came around and we made out once, now am one month gone. The issue is I can't tell my parents now cos they are due to travel abroad 10th of July to return September and I won't want anything to distract them or stop them from travelling(my mum is an advocate of if you are pregnant, you do the marriage asap).
The said guy will not really be ready for marriage as soon as possible, probably early next year, because he is still trying to get his feet. For me, I don't have a job, just rounded up my masters program. Please I need your advice, thanks and God bless.


Congratulations for conceiving your precious baby, indeed God has proven that nothing is wrong with your womb or your body. Though I have no idea why you allowed a small boy to push you into getting yourself in a helpless situation simply because your breast secreted milk when you were not lactating which could be as a result of infection or hormonal imbalance.
But since you took up the challenge in good faith, please accept my heartfelt congratulations once more. Once pregnancy is involved and a new life is on the way, please don't make it a secret from your family, the responsible partner and his family. The reason is simple, a new life is on the way, and this new life needs the support of everyone on earth to come alive at the appointed time.
Since your partner is not strong enough, kindly inform your mother about your pregnancy so that she can give you the funds that you need to cater for yourself, enrol for antenatal care and eat well for the sake of your baby.
You may need to start up something to supplement what your partner, mother and his family provides for your health. Pregnancy is a priceless project and should not be made a secret.
With support from your family, his family and your partner, I believe that you will bring your baby to this beautiful world. I will also suggest that you don't rush into getting married to him yet, let's allow this pregnancy to reveal his strength of character and personality to help you decide if he's really the kind of man that you desire to settle down with for the rest of your life.
Marriage is not a nine months journey but a lifetime commitment so don't rush into it because you took in for him but get married because he's the man who will bring out the best in you.
Once more, congratulations on your pregnancy.