Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Lovemaking 101

After I had a wonderful session with a man who loves his wife, and genuinely desired to give her many reasons to love him more and yearn for more intimate moments with him, I received a lot of mails from men who genuinely want to improve on lovemaking with their spouse. 

A good number of ladies feel used when it comes to sexual intimacy, and that has made some to either frustrate their spouse in bed or detest the art of lovemaking. 

Some women have resigned in their mind that they can never enjoy intimacy with their spouse, and that has made them not to see sexual intimacy as anything that's worth the hype. 

Some men work hard in banging and thrusting, thinking that what a woman needs is energetic banging. 


Many times, some women shout and moan to make you feel like you are doing a good job, but in reality you are only wasting your time. If her body is not responding to your touch and thrust, her moaning and screaming is only a cover up to impress you. 

So I want to take some time to educate you on how to make love to your spouse and get her her blushing and yearning for more. 


-Communicate Love Always (CLA)

A woman is receptive to love any time and every time. You need to learn to communicate love to her, from complimenting her look, to complimenting her body. No matter how much compliment she receives from others, your compliments is the most important. 

Even with her body imperfections, always make her see the best of her body and she will be so confident to share her body with you. 

Communicate love with gifts, kind assistance, romantic messages/words of encouragement and support. Look out for her, celebrate her, and always make her feel special in your life. 

Because lovemaking begins in the mind, the beauty you create in her mind is the beauty you will reap in her body. 


-Note the Erotic Zone of Her Body. 

Every human being is unique, different, and amazing in his or her own way. No two ladies react to sex the same way/manner. What you think you know about ladies is never sufficient when it comes to making love with your spouse. 

There are ladies whose vagina get lubricated by simple kiss and cuddling. There are some whose nipples make their body vibrate, and for some, clitoris stimulation does the magic. Note what works best for your spouse and stick to it. 

Knowing her erogenous zone is very important, but knowing how to communicate with her through her erogenous zones is what makes you a great man in bed. 


-Never Focus on Satisfying Yourself During Lovemaking. 

I know that thrusting is the most important pleasurable aspect of lovemaking for men, but for women, it quite not necessarily the same. She wants to connect with you, express herself with you, and have you inside of her for a pleasurable moment so that both of you can enjoy this orgasm together. 

So to help your spouse enjoy sex with you, please focus on satisfying her first, and then satisfy yourself the moment you see that she's enjoying the intimacy. 


-Thrusting

This is one of the most critical moment in lovemaking, and how you go about this will determine whether she will grab you for more rounds of sex or whether she will turn to the other side whenever you make advance for sexual intimacy. 

Now, gentleman, there is a need for me to remind you that she's not running away, so don't be in a hurry. I also want to assure you that you cannot satisfy your spouse if you are worried about whether you can satisfy her or whether your money will land or whether your neighbor will respect you the next morning. During lovemaking, nothing else matters, and nothing else should occupy your mind, except enjoying sex with your spouse. It is a sin to touch your phone when you’re intimate with her. We existed before GSM.


Don't thrust when she's not wet or well lubricated. If you are in the habit of telling her to open her legs for sex (very disrespectful), there is a greater chance that you may end up giving her bruises all in the name of lovemaking. 

Note: Not all women lubricate enough for a whole lovemaking session, and it is perfectly normal. If your spouse does not lubricate enough after a long period of foreplay, please endeavor to get a sex lubricant, and apply it on your penis and her vaginal wall before thrusting. 


Start slow and take a deep breath with each thrust. Remember, connecting with her is more important than banging her vagina. Just as it takes some time for a woman to get aroused, it sometimes takes some measurable time for her to climax or orgasm or enjoy sex with you. 


Let me shatter your balls: It is never the size of your penis that makes a lady enjoy sex with you; your skill in intimacy does it all.

If you are anxious or pretty fast, you will ejaculate in no time thereby leaving her unsatisfied. Take it easy


Thrusting Techniques. 

Techniques for thrusting depends on sex position and your understanding of your spouse's body. 

To maintain a long lasting thrusting, the best technique is for you to interchange between shallow thrusting and deep thrusting. You can do shallow-thrusting two times and then have deep-thrust once, and interchange the rhythm until you can tell that she's enjoying your efforts. 


Sometimes when she signals for you to go harder, it only means that you are doing a good job, and she's getting more aroused by your thrust. 


How do you know she's enjoying herself with you? 

Moaning/screaming maybe deceptive, but these signs are real. A good number of women do all that just to make the guy feel good. Be sure hers is real. If it’s real, 
-Her breathing pattern changes 
-Her vagina becomes super wet. 
-When you are inside her, you will notice that her vagina is trying to grab your penis and you will definitely feel the impact of her vaginal wall. 


I cannot cover everything in one article, so I will continue this series and unravel, more, the beauty of lovemaking, so that our men will revive the beauty of lovemaking in their marriage.

Rejoinders are welcome.

2 comments:

  1. I love this article and i need more of it because i have really learnt alot with this little piece, Will love to make my future wife the happiest woman on earth.

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  2. I love this article and i need more of it because i have really learnt alot with this little piece, Will love to make my future wife the happiest woman on earth.

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