Sunday, May 17, 2015

He's going to America, what do I do?

Dear Aunty Amara please I need your advise on this 
I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend We can't do without each other,if we don't see every weekend is as if we have not seen each other for years. Now chevron is sending him to America for six years and he is requesting I go with him,he don't want to leave me behind cos he might lose me,his plans are for us to do introduction and make our families to know each other and see how serious we're and travel after the introduction then return after one year in America for our traditional/white wedding and return back. He said he has his plans for our future and I wouldn't want to leave him all alone in America cos I will be scared of losing him to someone too. 
Going with him after our introduction and coming back for our wedding and Traditional is it right? Please, I need answers Aunty

Dear sender,
Take your time and discuss with him, find out how much two of you can raise together.
Instead of leaving for America after introduction,I would suggest that he also pay your bride prize and fulfill the traditional rites so that you would have authority in his home and have the privileges that a wife ought to have in her husband's home.
It must not be flamboyant, it can be a budgeted ceremony one that involves both families only.
You may do blessing of marriage on a Sunday before you leave with him that is if you so desire.

1 comment:

  1. Try and persuade him to pay ur dowry after the intro, thereby making u his wife legally then u can travel with him, come back after a yr for the trad and white wedding. The simple truth is that ur gonna loose him once he goes to USA.


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