Wednesday, September 23, 2015

When Smart Women Become Foolish

I am sure you always come in contact with these “very smart women”. There are girls who claim to be so vast in life and who have seen so much that they now believe nothing can trap them down. These women take advantage of the vulnerable in their community. Don’t forget; the Internet is a community.

 The most painful part of this is that these ladies believe they are smart and streetwise when in the actual sense of it; they are the most foolish set of people on earth. I am sure men dread these women and for you not to ruin your relationship with the man you love; for you not to destroy the home you cherish, you have to be careful and know when to run away from these women. You must grow up to know when to stop going to them for advice.

As humans, we always want to confide in someone; this is good, but I have noticed that most times, those you trust are the ones to get you into regrets and by the time you start the ‘had I known’, they are nowhere to be found.

Psychologists have told us that for every negative commentary we hear, we need, at least, three positive comments to bring us out of a negative perspective into a balanced one-not even a positive, hopeful one.

As a woman in a relationship, there are certain advice you shouldn’t spend a minute thought on. If you should mistakenly take any of these evil advice from the so called smart women, you are doomed for life and you may end up losing that relationship you want to protect. If half the time you spend trying to fight your way into a man's heart is spent on your personal development, you would be the best and most industrious woman on earth.

Now let us look at some of those satanic advice from your Ms. Smart.

Beat up/Kill his girlfriend
It’s a shame to see women fight each other over a man. This is absolutely unnecessary. We always claim to be disrespected by men; why won’t they disrespect us seeing that we fight ourselves over them?
 A woman I know very well lost her four months pregnancy just because she went to fight her husband’s girlfriend. You are nothing but a street girl if you are guilty of this. I don’t care your social status; you are just fit for the gutters.
The girl outside is not your problem. Your problem is the man in your life. Let the girl be, go sort things out with your man. If he wants to respect you; if he still wants you, he knows how best to sort it out. He’s not a baby, he knows what he’s doing.

Deny Him Sex
 You are not denying him sex because you are depressed or hurt by the man; you want to use sex to get money and other material things. I believe a man should help his woman overcome depression and should apologize when wrong. Real men apologize and help their women get over hurts. Women are different from men when it comes to emotional matters. Women want lovemaking because they are relaxed; men use lovemaking to relax. If you want that good lovemaking, please make sure you make her happy.
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Back to those selfish ladies. How can any reasonable woman use sex as a weapon to fight her man? A lady somewhere in Lagos denied her husband sex for his refusal to change her one year old SUV that was bought straight from the manufacturing company. After three months into this, the man met his high school sweetheart at a gas station; old flame got rekindled. The man called to tell me this.

Another woman walked into my office telling my female employees that the best thing is to collect money from their husband at the point of lovemaking. According to her, that's what she does and for the man to touch her, he must drop like #50K (Fifty Thousand Naira). As we discussed this, a male customer confirmed her story by telling us about his cousin whose wife does that to. What a shame. If you are like these women, you are a prostitute in your own home.  Foolish women thinking they are smart.

Don’t cook his meal
No matter the quarrel with my husband, I serve his meal. Don't keep him starved because of marital issues. As long as you both live together, you will keep agreeing and disagreeing. You grew up in different environments.

I know some men who reject food over marital issues; this is not right. You are very childish and you need to grow up. And pray you do not meet a very mean woman because right before you, she will make your favorite soup and finish it. A friend told me how he was forced to stop rejecting food after his wife started ignoring him each time he did, according to him, the day he refuses to eat is always the day she makes and enjoys the best meal.

 If you think you will not have issues in marriage, you should have waited for eternity to come before marriage. As long as we are striving towards perfection, there SHALL be issues. You are in it, face it. Talk it over as friends and get over it.

Keep away from his relations
 I know a woman who, whenever the man is around, treats his relations like eggs only to put them through torture and starve them when the man is out. This makes the man believe his wife so much loves and cares for her children. You can choose to go ahead in your iniquity, but don’t forget; you shall reap whatever you sow. Treat them right. Even if they hate you, protect yourself, but don't hate them back and don't stop them from coming to their brother, son, or father.

Have your egg in different baskets
 This is deceit from the pit of hell. Even on my Facebook public page, I see ladies come up with this advice. Young girls believe they shouldn’t have all eggs in one basket as the guy may change his mind tomorrow. If you have doubts about him, please take a walk. End that relationship with him before starting another. I don’t care how many relationships, it is better and more honorable to end one before going into another.

Married women on their part are now into young boys to the point that these gigolos are no longer available for the young girls. They buy houses and cars for the lazy young men who service them in the husband’s absence. A Nigerian senator once locked up her Ghanaian steward because the guy got tired of servicing her. She employed him as a steward, but more for her bed. A day came that the boy refused to go on with this life; madam got him locked up by the police. It took the intervention of a friend to get this boy out after he threatened to expose madam senator.

Our young girls now live in porch houses and use top range rides with shops on high streets, courtesy, big mummy. It’s not that you are battling with the lesbian thing; your greed has pushed you into becoming/acting to be one. How can you call yourself a lesbian when you have a man by the side? The end of all these is pain. It is more honorable ending a relationship than being unfaithful in it.

Just a visit to a spiritualist
 There is no gift of the devil without tears and expiry date. Every gift of God makes rich and adds no sorrow. Your regular visit to the witch doctor is leading you to one destination-regret. The sad thing is that a good number of babalawos (witch doctors) have turned to pastors and are making good living from our society. Be careful with the pastors we have around as majority of them are from the devil himself. They will give you the prophecy you want to hear and are most times exact. The truth is that they work with the spirit of the dead-necromancy, and this is what tells them everything they need to know about you. They have no solution to your problem. Only a few are still in tune with the Trinity.

My dear, there is nothing as beautiful as you being close to God and have Him direct you Himself. You would be happier if you develop a personal relationship with God thereby putting an end to your regular visits to the evil prophets in town who depend on people like you for their upkeep.

Step up; dress like his girlfriend
When you find yourself dressing like his girlfriend who walks about nude, my dear, you are on your way to being one of them. Be yourself. Remember you have those tiny eyes looking up to you. If your fashion sense is poor, do something to brush yourself up. I feel bad when I see women or men who just sit and watch their spouse step up the ladder without doing anything to improve themselves. If you want him to be proud of you at his company's end of year event, please step up. Sir, if you want her to proudly flaunt you, step up. Brush yourself up to avoid looking like a maid or driver beside your spouse. Look good and beautiful, but please don’t make yourself a cheap item.

Hear the conclusion of the matter: Spend time with God and good friends who will show you the right way. If you spend time working on yourself (not just visiting the beauty parlors where you fix a 28 inches lace wig with some scary eyelashes and claws), developing yourself to become what you should be, you will have less time for those "smart" friends. Never forget: The best friend to have after Jesus is your spouse.


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