Monday, October 19, 2015

Should a Wife Engage in Sex When Fasting?

Hi my able Amicable Amy, good evening madam.
Please post this for me cos I really need to know .
Please my good people ,is it right for a woman or couples observing fasting and prayers to engage in sex or rather love making,cos i`m of the opinion that its compulsory that you abstain from sex during fasting.
I`m someone that goes into fasting a lot when the need arises it can be for a week,three days,five days etc, I'm currently on a week own now and the issue is causing problem between I and hubby,he said I should show him where it is written in the Bible that a legally married woman shouldn't allow her husband touch her during fast.
So my fellow AVL fans,men and women of God, I need to know if I'm been too religious,ignorant,getting it all wrong or on the right track.
I need clarifications,cos I still have some days to go and hubby is complaining bitterly but I can't give in. Though I need to hear the truth,I want to learn,but please my people don't be harsh on me ooƓ,no insults please ,no one is perfect.
I have also asked other groups I'm in to get people's views concerning the matter.
Please bear the long write up. Thanks all and God bless. One love my people .
Auntym, please I need you to advice me on this too. God enlarge you.

I understand how you love to fast and pray for your family, marriage and ministry. 
Perhaps you are the prayer warrior of your church and nobody really is discouraging you from fasting and seeking the face of God but when in your zeal to fast you unfasten the devil in your home, it will take something greater than fasting and prayers to restore your marriage because another strange woman would have fastened herself in your matrimonial home. 
The Bible said and I quote But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV
I do need to say much because the Bible has made it clearer for the blind to see and the deaf to understand that you have no right over your body but your husband. 
If you so desires to fast everyday, it's not a bad thing but please note that you must keep your legs and body open for your husband especially when you are not fasting together with him even if it was your pastor that directed you to fast. 
Your husband must enjoy sex with you even while you are fasting for the world and God will still honour your prayers and heed to your cry. 
If you punish your husband in the name of fasting and praying, how do you hope that God will hear you when you are selfishly looking for ways to expose the weaknesses and vulnerabilities of your husband to the world? 
Sex won't destroy your fast but will strengthen your prayers and will even encourage your husband to support you in fasting and praying. 
I want to believe that you genuinely desire to please God and do his will. Please do not let the devil into your home, you may never have the desire to fast anymore when that happens. 


  1. Well...Madam Amara Van-Lare ...i plead to strongly disagree with you on this.
    Fasting is an exercise that has to do with depriving oneself of every form of physical pleasure...During fasting, a person must abstain from sex due to the spiritual and physical implications..
    From the physical point of view, a person who is fasting tends to be physically weak and we all know the physical demands of takes a physically strong person to have good sex..that is why it is advisable to eat well before and after sex so how can you tell a woman who is fasting to have sex and still continue fasting? How feasible is such advice? How can she cope? I plead you conduct your research on spiritual issues properly before you give counsel on such..
    Dear poster,
    This is why it is strongly advisable that both partners share the same level of agreement spiritually before and during marriage...From your complaint, it's so clear that you and your husband do not share the same idea spiritually...
    My advice to you is simple,
    Kindly explain to him the physical implications of having sex with a hungry could be harmful to you and he might also complain of your performance on bed..
    Also...try as much as you can to schedule your fasting days before hand and give him prior notice so that he wouldn't be taken unawares..
    He is your husband and you should make him understand that he can abstain for a short while just as he does when you are seeing your menstrual flow and when you are sick...It's all about understanding...

  2. When a woman gives birth, she is usually advised to keep off sex for about 8 weeks? How do husbands cope then? Let him learn that.

    *As for the wife, 1 Cor 7 has said it all. Obtain his consent before fasting and don't fast for too long at a stretch. A day or two is enough at a stretch.

  3. From my understand as long as both the husband and the wife agrees to fast then you both must abstain but in a case where the woman only is fasting and the man wants sex, madam no dull the guy oh or else him see free one outside. Even the bible made it clear except you both agree other than that it's not advisable to go on a solo fasting in Marriage..

  4. Communication is key in every relationship and marriage, when you are fasting always communicate with your husband to have an agreement to abstain from sex in that period of fasting, but in a case whereby such agreement is not in place, please place your fast on hold and fulfill your marital obligation, then u can continue the next day, but nothing stops u from making sweet love to your husband after braking your fast by 6pm in the evening knowing fully well that your fasting as not ended, it is not a sin.
    the Bible says your spouse owns your body and not you, so if your husband says he wants sex now and refuses to understand that you are fasting please comply and continue the next day for it is not a sin.

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