Question: What
are the qualities you want in a man?
Girl: He
must be god-fearing, neat, caring, well groomed, honest, decent, with a vision
for his life and home, bla-bla-bla.
Question: What
do you want in a woman?
Boy: She
must love God, neat, sexy, and properly raised, decent, good in housekeeping...the
list is often endless
Kudos for
knowing what you want in your future partner. It's always beautiful to know
what you want and more beautiful to know that you are not willing to accept
anything less.
We all set
standards for ourselves in life even though we don't always meet those
standards. But I love it when I see those who are focused and who know what
they want from life. You know what you want from life and in a relationship; do
you know what you deserve? I must also let you know that you are not alone in
this because almost everyone wants the same thing you want in a spouse. But
have you asked yourself if you are anywhere close to being those things
everybody wants from his/her spouse?
You want a
god fearing spouse; do you
fear God? Do you still have your conscience? You
want to marry a woman who can always intercede for you. You want a man who will
be the spiritual head of your home. What efforts are you making to become that
for someone?
You want a
very decent spouse; that’s highly commendable. But, what's your dress sense
like? You still sag and walk like a baboon; you always have your breasts out
for every fly to perch on; you have five earrings on your ears, you have
another on your tongue and eyes; your body is nothing short of a public toilet
and yet you want a decent man/woman for a spouse.
Your makeup,
instead of making you more beautiful, turns you to a masquerade that should be
dreaded. Everything you do is in the excess, your false lashes look abnormal,
your false nails are way too long, you are close to wearing panties outside the
house and yet you desire a very decent
spouse.
My people, the Igbos in Nigeria have this
saying, "odikaodi kpoba, odikaodi
azuru" (you will always attract your likes). What kind of places do
you go to? You sleep and wake in night clubs; you are a fish when it comes to
alcohol; your friends are nothing to write home about, and yet, you want a
decent spouse. You currently enjoy dating a guy who does not come home after
work. Don’t cry tomorrow because he may not be home for weeks even when he is
in the same city as you.
I agree with
you; you sure need a man of vision who can lead the way. We have been
conditioned to believe that it's the man who must have a vision for his home.
You move about aimlessly; you loiter the streets from morning till night; you
are in school is just for the fun of it; you have no vision apart from
graduating and partying. All you think of is what to wear for that weekend
party. Your favorite TV channel is E and your favorite program is the K…s. You
spend time in gossip about successful people instead of working hard to be discussed
by others.
Do you have a vision for your life? If you do,
what is your vision? What vision do you have for your spouse? Where do you see
yourself five years from now? What would be your contributions to his life?
What are you bringing to the table if eventually you become his Mrs.? You have
no right to ask for a spouse with vision if you have none for your life and
home.
You want a
girl who can cook and keep the home and yet the only place you visit is a night
club. While you date her, you take pleasure in eating out and visiting all the
big hotels and restaurants in town. You can only get a girl who would be out
every night and come back the following morning to throw her pants on the floor
of your bedroom and sometimes on your face. It's also possible you get a very
good girl who you would subject to torture as long as she lives with you.
The person
should be honest; it's a good one. But why is it that the only truth we get
from you is 'good morning'? You are lucky to be a part of the GSM generation
and so things are easier for you. As far as you are concerned, there is no
point saying the truth, even to your partner. Right where you are telling your
likes that you want a god-fearing spouse, you have five social media accounts
with different names and pictures.
A friend
told me how his cousin's fiancé was left in shock when she saw that the very
man she has been in touch with is her fiancée’s cousin. She put up a newspaper
advert asking for a man in his forties. She lied that she was in her twenties
(she was in her thirties). My friend continued chatting with her and talking on
phone. On the D-day, my friend went to work, well dressed, hoping to finally
meet his dream woman. He had told his colleagues that someone special was
coming. There entered this lady who was asking for the given name. When they
called my friend, he realized that the very lady he was in touch with for
months and who he supposedly didn't know, was in his house with her fiancée the
previous night. This brought that lovely relationship to an end.
Like I said
earlier in this article, it is not wrong for you to know what you want. It is
normal for you to want a Mr. or Mrs. Right, but in doing this, make yourself a Mr./Mrs.
Right. Make sure you are that which you desire in a spouse.
Change yourself first. Concentrate on becoming that which you desire in a spouse. God is too merciful not to allow you mess up
the life of His precious child. Marriage is a covenant for serious-minded people, not those who love to play around.
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