Saturday, April 9, 2016

How do I Control Anger and Bad Mouth?

Hi Mrs Amara, may God Almighty continue to bless you in your daily endeavours. Aunty please I need your advice/counselling. By the special grace of God am getting married in less than two months and am getting married to a wonderful man that really cares for me, respects me, understands me, a man that treats me like a queen most of it all a faithful man. Aunty the problem am having now is me, myself and I, the issue is that I have some bad characters that I don't know how to control, like bad mouth, I gets angry easily, I shout at him at will, I don't forgive easily etc.
Aunty please how do I control my anger and my bad mouth and to give him some respect he deserves as a hubby. I don't want him to regret ever marrying me, I don't want what happened to my parent to happen in my marriage cos my dad stays with my mum because of us(children) cos my mum is so aggressive, as a matter of fact one day I heard my daddy saying he regretted marrying my mum.
Note: we've dated for five good years and he as never for once get mad at me but mine is everyday. He's 31while am 30. I love this man for real and he loves me wholeheartedly. Please Aunty give me some tips that I need to make my home a peaceful and heaven on earth home. Thanks and God bless you

My joy is that you have spotted your weaknesses and you are willing to work on them to become a better wife and mother to your husband. The first thing you must have at the back of your mind is that your husband is different from every other men in the world and in your past. So avoid anything or any thought that might influence you to feel that he's like every other men or like those you dated in the past.
Because he's different from others, you have to patiently give your heart to understanding his personality, vision and passion as a man, you have to learn to listen more, love more and talk less. Sometimes the things you react to may not be real or true, you may be depending on so much assumptions and presumptions that you don't even allow him to express himself before judging him, this you must also curb.
You must take your time to understand your emotions and how best to manage them. Insecurities, fears, anger, anxiety and competition or comparison may push one into doing something that you may live to regret.
One of the most effective ways of managing your emotions is by feeding yourself with the right information that will develop your perception and understanding of events and individualities. And the word of God is the basic foundation that will greatly help you understand yourself better and the implications of your attitude and your choice of words.
If you don't mind, you may take your time to study the book of Proverbs and do an in depth analysis of the book so that you can grasp the wisdom and God's provision for your marriage.
If you can, get books or videos that deals on emotional intelligence and take your time to study them so that in every circumstances of your life, you don't allow your emotions to control your actions but you take your time, meditate and then strategize on what's best for you at that point in time.
This you must always remember, anyone who has a loose mouth, nagging spirit and anger is weaker emotionally and can easily be predicted but when you learn to manage your feelings, meditate, pray and discuss before reacting, you will be gaining emotional maturity and the capacity to manage any attitude or circumstances that may affect your marriage.
If your husband offends you or does something that hurt you, don't be in a haste to attack (those who attack are weaker), instead withdraw, control your emotions and then seek for a calm and peaceful atmosphere for dialogue and discussion, by so doing you have weakened the anger and the spirit to retaliate or curse him.
It may take some time but with prayers, patience and consistent meditation on God's word and materials that will enhance your communication skills and your understanding of life issue, you will definitely manage your foul speech and anger.


  1. Lucky u.he seems nice be careful nd pray out dat demon possessing u carry ur mums trait

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