Thursday, November 3, 2016

I Don't See Any Future With Him.

Hello ma, there is this guy I met around August ending. He asked me out but I have not really given him a straight answer to his proposal. Reasons are because
1. He is jobless. This guy can't even boast of N5 at his age.

2. He have a very offensive bad breath.
3. He is too quiet and dull for my liking, he is 30 years and am 25.
I don't see any future with him since at his age he doesn't have anything doing or have any kobo to call his own...
Am seeing him as a liability and a setback to my life because I have already planned not to exceed age 28 years without getting married.
What then is his fate of making money and getting married in three years time? And please is there any solution to his bad breath problem? Thanks ma.


You raised issues of great concern in the life of your partner. 
Have you sat down to discuss your fears with him? Have you made an attempt to find out his vision and purpose in life, and his short term goals and long term goals in life? 
Even if he's currently jobless, maybe you should suggest ways he can engage in something positive and productive so that he can at least earn a living for himself. 
As for his bad breath, maybe you should find out how he's taking care of his teeth and tongue, that's if he's comfortable with you and willing to open up to you. Changing his paste and paying attention to his tongue will hopefully help him manage his breath. You may also encourage him to write to me here for further counselling. 
As for his attitude, it could be his personality and there's little or nothing he can do about it. 
On a very serious note, I won't advice you to consider getting married to him, not because of his flaws but because you have lost faith in his personality so getting married to him will only be out of pity. 
If however you're willing to humble yourself and work with him irrespective of his flaws and shortcomings, if you are willing to let go of your birthday and look beyond his flaws to his personality, and perhaps explore ways to encourage him or support him, then maybe you may have one or two reasons to love and plan a future with him.

2 comments:

  1. Well, its not my spouse, it's my mom. She always hides to call someone. I hate what she is doing. I already know the phone number of the other man and some information. She always denies it and gets very mad. I need more proofs, that will be impossible to deny. It quite hurts, the way your own mother is acting. It's also disgusting. Well, I guess I got off the topic. I wanted to know if the information of a cell phone can be transferred to some other device, to be viewed. Thank you, the information was helpful,contact him in gmail with this address hotcyberlord@gmail.com..he will surely help out like he did for me

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  2. Well, its not my spouse, it's my mom. She always hides to call someone. I hate what she is doing. I already know the phone number of the other man and some information. She always denies it and gets very mad. I need more proofs, that will be impossible to deny. It quite hurts, the way your own mother is acting. It's also disgusting. Well, I guess I got off the topic. I wanted to know if the information of a cell phone can be transferred to some other device, to be viewed. Thank you, the information was helpful,contact him in gmail with this address hotcyberlord@gmail.com..he will surely help out like he did for me

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