Monday, May 25, 2015

Should she follow him without marriage?

Dear Aunty Amara plz I need ur advise on this I have been in a relationship wit my boyfriend We can't do without each other,if we don't see every weekend is as if we av not seen each other for years. Now chevron is sending him to America for 6yrs and he is requesting I go wit him,he don't want to leave me behind cos he might lose me,his plans re for us to do introduction and make our families to know each other and see how serious we're and travel after d introduction then return after 1yr in America for our traditional/white wedding and return back. He said he has his plans for our future and I wouldn't want to leave him all alone in America cos I will be scared of losing him to someone too. Going with him after our introduction and coming back for our wedding and Traditional is it right? plz I need answers Aunty

Dear Sender,
Pits up to you and your family. But I have seen women abandoned for another even after introduction. Why can't he just pay your bride price and then you return later for a party if you feel you must have one? Court marriage is very simple and affordable; get that done before the trip. Why would you move in with a man who has not put any kola on your head? Introduction is not marriage. A young girl was brought to the U.S. this same way by a family I know so well. When she started having issues, normal issues that every new marriage must have, this family asked their son to leave her and today, she's in the U.S., stranded. My dear, it's safer having him pay your bride price before anything.

6 comments:

  1. Not a bad idea my dear poster but I feel you go for court marriage after the introduction before leaving for the US with him. Registry cost nothing much if actually he is sincere.You bend the iron wen it's hot oo

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  2. My dear, let him pay your pride prize. Dat is an assurance. Den you can go with him.

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  3. My dear, let him pay your pride prize. Dat is an assurance. Den you can go with him.

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  4. My dear, let him pay your pride prize. Dat is an assurance. Den you can go with him.

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