Friday, July 10, 2015

Understanding your wife

Can't remember where I read this from, but it's saved on my drive

"I see men always reminding their wives that they are the head and so they become dictators in their home. A husband is not his wife's master. His leadership must follow the example set by Christ, the Head of the church. Simply said, a husband must love and lead like the Saviour did by serving.
One of the best ways to serve your wife is to understand her needs and try to meet them. Do you know your wife's top three needs? What worries her? What kind of pressure does she feel? Learn the answers to questions like these and then do what you can to reduce her worries, her troubles, and her pressures.
What do you do about your wife's dreams and hopes? She has plenty-do you know what they are? Are you cultivating her gifts? If she has a knack for decorating, cooking, fashion and beauty..., do you help her develop that? Are you helping her grow into the woman that God made her to be? Are you one of such husbands who destroy her gifts and dreams the moment she comes into your home? This is you God-given assignment as a husband.
The Bible instructs husbands to live with their wives in an understanding way (1 Pet. 3:7). How are you serving your wife as you lead your home?"

Amara writes
Why not take a date night, take her to a very serene environment and have a heart to heart talk with her? Ask her how you are doing in this area. Ask her how you can do better. She may not open up to you if you speak to her the usual way and in the usual place. Take her to an entirely new environment and if possible, let it be a weekend with her (without the kids). Spoil her with some spa treats (if you can afford that). Find out what she likes because it's possible that she's my type (I enjoy being close to nature better than going to a 5-star hotel and the best restaurant). Whatever it is, be sure to give her what she wants and never what you think she wants. I bet you, she will open up if you speak to her in the language she understands. When she does, please help build her up.
Learn how to talk with your wife; learn how to get her to talk with you. Every woman is unique, her ways are different from the ways of your girlfriends and other women who were in your life before her. You must study her and bring out the best in her.

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