Friday, September 25, 2015

It's Unconditional

One of the fastest killers of relationship is selfishness. It's more and always about us. If we are okay with it, our spouse can go to hell. Sometimes we misunderstand this whole thing about not "losing our individuality" in a relationship. Yes, I preach that too. But if we are not careful; if we don't have the right understanding of that word, we end up destroying our relationship with selfishness.
God's laws are not conditional. If you read Ephesians 5 from verse 21, there are no conditions attached to your obeying those principles. "Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church...", "wives submit".
Here, it is not saying love her only if she deserves your love. The example given is Christ loving us even while we were yet sinners and undeserving of mercy. Madam, submitting to your husband is in no way conditional. Whether he deserves it or not, your duty is to submit. Love is not love until it is sacrificial and without conditions. Submission is not submission until it is tested and proved under fire.
Are these things easy to do? It's absolutely impossible for a carnal mind. But for that person who has lost himself or herself to the Holy Spirit, it's a very easy thing to do. Unbelieving spouses have been won and changed just by the conduct of the believing spouse.
It's not easy my dearest, it wasn't easy for Jesus at the cross when He died for people who didn't even recognize Him as saviour. But He did it. It won't be easy submitting to a man who is no head in the home; it's never easy submitting to a man who cannot protect his wife; it's never easy loving a woman who fails to recognize you as the captain of the ship and accept the fact that she's a co-pilot but not the captain.
But you have to pray and ask the Holy Spirit to help you because without Him, we can do nothing. To be able to love her the right way and not just in words; to be able to submit to him the right way, you must first accept the love of God and submit to His Spirit.  And who knows;  that person's salvation and destiny could be tied to you.

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