Thursday, November 26, 2015

I Shed Tears Everyday!

Good day ma, I've followed your page for a year now and I must confess you're a great WOMAN indeed. Please my story is lengthy because I need to pour out my heart. 
I met this guy when I was 16 years old , we dated for two years before I changed location. Of course things were not the way they used to be, he then got into school, I decided to end the relationship cos I felt I'm no longer his type and moreover I wanted to settle down and not just relationship. 
I cut off every communication with him but he always find a way to reach me, he always tell me that no matter what I'm the woman he will get married to, that I can't change God's plan. According to him all these while I wasn't with him he dated a lot of girls, he lived a dirty life with women, that's over four years ago. He still kept contact with me even though I don't like him again. 
I had relationships too but none worked out, it all ended on baseless issues. I prayed and asked God for direction and each time I kept seeing the same guy. Somehow we got together again and I started loving him, he encouraged me to go to school and he was behind me all through until I graduated. 
He has introduced me to his family as who he wants to marry. The issue now is I'm afraid things might change and is as if I'm stuck to him cos I don't want any man, I'm tired of going in and out of relationships. 
He still talks to his exes (I mean almost all) and not just ordinary talk, he chats dirty, sends them money, asking to see them if they're around town. 
I've confronted him and he begged me to give him time to let go of them yet he was the one that calls, chat them. 
Ma please help me, I cry almost everyday when I see those things from someone I've been so dedicated to, loved and given my all. Above all this he still loves and care for me but I'm confused.

And as fire is burning your fingers slowly, you still feel that he's the best for you? 
I will help you understand your partner while I leave you to make the decision on what's best for you. 
Your partner is a generous, kind, loving and selfless cheat who though knows what he wants but wouldn't let go of the small extras (jara or fisi) like a one night sex and some hours of fun with no strings attached. 
Yes he want you to understand him and give him some time (that could be a lifetime anyways) so that he will let them go or sorry he will go after them while you are at home preparing his meal (let's hope that you don't get infections). 
He truly loves you from all he has done and has assured you but he has failed to discipline his appetite for the vagina (wondering if he will ever get tired) and as such will always hook them up and find ways to apologize. 
The real question is now that you know his weaknesses, can you endure them, continuously forgive him and selflessly accept him should you decide to get married to him? 
How long will you shed tears before you can wake up to the reality of the limits of your emotions? 
If you feel that you can cope with his weaknesses, then prepare your heart and strategize on the best approach to support him and help him quit cheating on you. 
I must remind you that it can be painful and emotionally frustrating to watch your husband continuously cheat on you and you are simply unable to do anything to help or save the situation. 
For now he's asking for some time, then he may not even ask for forgiveness because it's his normal way of life and your feelings will mean nothing to him. 
If he chats dirty with girls and call them at will, if he shares his profits with them and possibly visits them without telling you, how will your marriage with him look like? 
Marriage doesn't turn sinners to saints especially when such an individual has little or no relationship with God or regards God's word or your emotions so before you start lamenting how you wished for gold and got stones please seek the face of God and don't ignore the horrible signs and negative feedback you are receiving from the relationship. 
You are not stuck with him as you can decide to leave him if you are not happy and comfortable with his personality. 
That a man said that you are God's will for him doesn't necessarily mean that he heard from God. It could be a form of intimidation to woo you into getting married to him. 
If he cannot discipline his appetite for women and cut off from his ex, if he cannot respect your emotions whether you are there or not, then be warned and be guided by your conscience to avoid putting yourself in the bondage of regrets. 
I pray that God will help you to understand the difference between getting married and being happy with your partner. 
I am already praying for you and I hope that you wouldn't make a wrong decision at the end of the day. 


  1. The handwriting is clearly on the wall. Though it may be painful, find your way my dear daughter. You are already suffering, it will be worse when the is 'sealed'. The pain of walking out will be less than the trauma of living with an unfaithful husband.

  2. My dear, Aunt Amara has said it all. Don't feel you own him nd get entangled in his mess out of pity. The Lord grant you wisdom.

  3. My dear, Aunt Amara has said it all. Don't feel you own him nd get entangled in his mess out of pity. The Lord grant you wisdom.

  4. My dear a man that didnt change for you now that he knows his unfaithfulness can make you leave him will never change when he has finally griped you in the yoke of marriage. Prepare to live with his unfaithfulness till death or take your exit while you can now. Ask your self if this is what you want for the rest of your life? Is this what you marry for? Is this the kind of life you want to resort to when God has prepared you for a global significance? You will be busy fighting a heart/self battle when your mates are fulfilling destiny. Is it the kind of dream you have for your beautiful life? My dear if you dont want to die young out of heart break and infections coupled with the enemies the man will generate for you from his numerous concubines better run for your dear life while its still day o. I thought People marry for the sake of happiness and fulfillment ? Is it not obvious that you are not going to get any of that or you think he will suddenly change? Wake up you are not the holy spirit dont blame God when you start seeing this uncontrollable misconducts in quantum. How old are you now? Please take your time greater opportunities awaits you.


  5. I am here to give testimony of how i got back my husband, we got married for over 9 years and we had two kids. thing were going well with us and we where always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treated me and the kids. later that month he did not come back home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted traditional spell hospital for the return of my husband to me, they told me that my husband have been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then they told me that they have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, they casted the spell and after 1 week my husband called me and he told me that i should forgive him, he started to apologize on phone and said that he still live me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that he casted on him that make him come back to me. my family and i are now happy again. Thank you Dr. Aluta for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want you my friends who are passing through all this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact and you will see that your problem will be solved without any delay. He cast spells for different purposes

    1. I can't believe this! Are u outa ur mind? What nonsense spell are u talking about? What happened to talking to God? Jeez


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